I don't think I've ever been so happy for it to be break before. More time with my man is amazing. Though I'll admit we don't do Christmas at home, the way you do it here. I never want to go back there, obviously, since they a. executed me and the boy I thought I loved and b. treated me like property and ruined things for everyone, but I don't know how to do a Christmas that doesn't involve a Prayvaganza and not much else.
Buying presents and baking cookies and watching the specials has been fun but what DO you buy for someone who is going through a really hard time because their hubris kicked them in the butt? I had SOME things for him but I'd like to get my guy something really special, something that might make him smile even though he's having a tough time.
It's not okay at all, what he did, but he knows that too and I think he's having to face it for the first time and while I don't want to make him bury his head in the sand or anything, I do want to be sure that he gets SOME chances to pull back from guilt and self recrimination, you know? I've been in the position of getting caught (for something else) and having to face yourself and your choices and...
It's sort of hard even if I do think they were wrong to say that loving someone other than the man that I was married to was adultury and so was running way with him. Under the circumstances, I had to TRY to be happy and...anyway. I realize it's deeper for my guy, but I also know that he'll need to do a lot of work and I want to encourage that while still showing him I love him even now and that I'll be there while he does work on himself and changing and that I want him to still have something he can smile about...
Does anybody have ideas?
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