Migrants to IJ, 2007

"if all posts are locked"

it makes me very sad that it's always the victims who have to reduce their visibility in these cases. not that someone couldn't type in a url and read any public posts---but why make it easy for the unwanted friend to syndicate the victim?

it also makes for a very visible gender bias: every example i cited was one where a woman had to abandon the chance to make public posts or gain readership. never the guy who was getting a kick out of making her feel anxious and afraid.

:/

just my opinion, but i don't think that the "unwanted friend" rule has anything to do with random, anonymous adding. rather, i think that in this case LJ is finally trying to do something to address a subtle and insidious problem that manifests on their website.