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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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trappedinresin
2013-09-18 06:10 pm UTC (link)

[Of all the classes she's been shuffled to today, it's this one that hits maybe a little too close to home. A little more personal than the others, even when she wants to deny it most.

Fingers trembling, she doesn't remember when her nails scrapped along the table's surface to leave deep, permanent marks.

These questions are stupid. So so stupid. Swallowing thickly fat, unshed tears cling to her lashes as she stares down at her questionnaire. Why does each question hurt so badly?]

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	bottomless_pit 2013-09-18 11:20 pm UTC (link)
	[ Don't ask why Hei is in this group considering the material would have him at the extreme opposite. Better to be alone then form those bonds he feared. ] Would you like a tissue, Miss Yuuki? [ he held out a white cloth, neatly folded into squares with an apologetic look. He knows it's difficult, but it does help (sometimes) to get it all out. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-19 06:12 pm UTC (link)
	[ Noticing that — of course he does — and with their budding friendship he won't pass up on a soft: ] Yuuki..? Are you okay? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-22 06:37 pm UTC (link)
	[She hears the scratching before she sees it, but once she does, she moves in a little closer to investigate.] Did the table do something? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)