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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

Entry tags:

:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	thisiscalm 2013-09-24 12:48 pm UTC (link)
	[ Deciphering from Kitty talk... ] Bit of both, I suppose. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-24 05:23 pm UTC (link)
	Both? [But only one was acceptable!] Oh... [Well, she feels great about that.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-24 05:35 pm UTC (link)
	[ He shifts a little closer for some illusion of privacy. He may be good and relaxed and drugged up, but that doesn't mean that he's not still fiercely protective of his personal integrity. ] Not with you. Never with you. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-24 05:52 pm UTC (link)
	["Oh" again. This time not so much a sad oh at the state of their relationship as much as a sad oh at the state of Reid. She reaches out to take his hand in hers.] Next time lead with that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-25 02:17 pm UTC (link)
	[ Handholding he can do. He gives her a small smile and a reassuring squeeze. ] Sorry. I'll remember that next time. [ A beat. ] I've never lost as many people as I have here. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-26 12:18 am UTC (link)
	...I have. [She squeezes that hand back.] You'd think it would be like second nature. [Does she have to actually say it's not for him to know?] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-26 05:36 pm UTC (link)
	I don't think that's something that ever gets easier. [ He swallows. ] It's not supposed to get easy. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-27 12:51 am UTC (link)
	Then it should really stop happening. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-27 05:59 pm UTC (link)
	But it won't. This is what people do. They disappear. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-28 08:16 pm UTC (link)
	That's not all people do. ...I haven't. [But most have. How many can she really count that haven't that have been here for any length of time? Somewhere between the alcohol she had with Tyki and the truth serum in the foods she's had she finds herself continuing.] You have. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-29 06:16 pm UTC (link)
	I have. [ And that weighs even heavier, somehow. He's not the one who leaves, he's the one left behind only here that may not remain a truth. He could be gone any minute. He could be the one abandoning. ] And I could disappear again. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-29 06:19 pm UTC (link)
	[It's something she's always known and thought, but actually hearing it hurts even though she's sure he doesn't mean to hurt her.] It's one of the reasons I wanted to sleep next to you so soon. I wanted to hold on. [Literally.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-30 05:22 pm UTC (link)
	Kitty... [ He doesn't mean to hurt her. It's the last thing he wants, but the truth lies surprisingly close to the surface today. It's easy to spill the things he has no intention of spilling. ] I didn't know that. I thought you just... didn't want an empty bed. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-30 05:36 pm UTC (link)
	...You thought you were just bed filler? Come on, Reid. I could have gotten a dog or had the ninja do that if that's all it was. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-30 06:17 pm UTC (link)
	[ Swallows. ] You have to admit that it moved very quickly. You can't blame me for doubting your intentions. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-30 06:33 pm UTC (link)
	[That feels a little harsh to her. It makes it sound as if she might have been trying to mislead him.] If you were doubting my intentions, why did you stay? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-30 06:59 pm UTC (link)
	[ Are you ready for this? ] Because I wanted to be wrong for once. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-30 07:14 pm UTC (link)
	[Was she ready? No, not really. Will he be ready when she leans in to hug him tightly in a room full of other group therapy goers?] You're wrong. The wrongest. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-02 05:24 pm UTC (link)
	[ Ready-ish. Relaxed enough to not care, if that's even a thing anymore. Long gone are the days where mild PDA bothered him. Even medium PDA fails to make much of a blip on his discomfort radar and he all too easily wraps his arms around her in return. ] Yeah... I kind of suspected as much by now. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-04 02:03 pm UTC (link)
	Good, or we'd have a problem. [She tips her head enough to kiss his cheek before pulling back again.] And I do bad things with sharp claws to problems. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-04 06:55 pm UTC (link)
	[ Such a sweet girlfriend. He gives her a squeeze over the shoulders. ] I don't even think you need the claws to do bad things. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-04 06:58 pm UTC (link)
	You're biased. [Smiles like it was a compliment. Maybe it was. Speaking of bad things. Can you smell that alcohol on her?] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-04 07:02 pm UTC (link)
	Nuh-uh. [ Let's say it's a compliment. It's easier that way. He does smell the alcohol on her, nose wrinkled slightly and eyes narrowing as he looks her over. ] Have you been drinking? [ Not judging. Just asking. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-04 07:07 pm UTC (link)
	Um, yeah, [She tucks some of her hair back.] Tyki brought a flask to my first session. [Is it still the best policy?] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 05:35 pm UTC (link)
	[ Whoa. Brows raising. He's not too upset over her drinking with Tyki, but that's entirely because he's worried about whether or not she's picked up on their little... deal. ] You've been drinking with Tyki. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)