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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	doesntdamsel 2013-09-21 09:06 pm UTC (link)
	[ She hasn't met Anna, but they did talk when she first arrived. Buffy doesn't expect her to remember. It was just voice and Anna had a lot going on with having just arrived and all.] It seems like life gets a lot harder right about that age though. Maybe it was just my life. [ Buffy sees that wince, but she's not sure how to respond. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	neverhurthim 2013-09-21 11:12 pm UTC (link)
	[Anna shakes her head and looks at Buffy once more.] It isn't. Just your life, I mean. [She doesn't want to think about these things, much less talk about them. They're things she hasn't thought about in a very long time.] My whole family except my mom -- they were killed. When I was fifteen. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	doesntdamsel 2013-09-24 06:50 pm UTC (link)
	Well that's comforting. [ Buffy talks too much about them sometimes. She rambles and rants and words get away from her. Of course she generally does this with people who already know about her life. Her expression falls and there's nothing but sympathy on her face for Anna. ] I'm so sorry, which I know doesn't--yeah. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

neverhurthim
2013-09-24 07:01 pm UTC (link)

Sorry. [She's surprised to realize she actually means that.]

[Anna doesn't mind the talking. She's already revealed more about her own life than she'd intended, and she'd rather Buffy do the talking. But as she sips her coffee, she can't help but talking more. It bothers her a little less this time.]

It was a long time ago. It's...not as hard anymore. It was harder losing my mom.

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	doesntdamsel 2013-09-26 02:07 pm UTC (link)
	[ She nods a little at that. ] You're never really prepared to lose her, are you? No matter how much you think loss can't take you by surprise, losing your mom always does. [ It's been years and Buffy still tears up, voice going a bit choked talking about it. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	neverhurthim 2013-09-29 10:23 pm UTC (link)
	[Anna has to look down when Buffy's voice chokes. It hurts to hear, hurts to watch, and hurts to think about.] Yeah. Yeah, it does. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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