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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	bottomless_pit 2013-09-24 11:54 pm UTC (link)
	[ Hei flashed a twisted smile, not having any of that hope left. ] They have to feel, first, before they can learn what cruelty they've done. But Sentience [ by all accounts ] managed to learn. Perhaps these will learn as well. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-25 12:00 am UTC (link)
	[Sentience, huh? He remembered Sentience, but that wasn't the kind of stuff he ever paid attention to.] I never noticed, but I'm always oblivious about that sort of thing. If it's true, however, then perhaps it's only a matter of time... especially after holding many of these therapy sessions. They've got to get a clue eventually. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	bottomless_pit 2013-09-26 10:40 pm UTC (link)
	Perhaps, although I have yet to see them at one of their own therapy sessions. [ Hei shook his head ] I have an unfortunate feeling reform is a long way off for them. [ and he is all the more sorry for it. For Hikaru's sake as well as his own. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-26 11:14 pm UTC (link)
	I wouldn't be surprised. [Hikaru sighs.] And yet... I'm often surprised when something weird happens. I don't know why I ever expect anything different from the wardens. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

bottomless_pit
2013-10-01 11:51 pm UTC (link)

[ Hei nodded and then frowned. ] It would be useful though, to know what was caused by our wardens and those of our fellow prisoners. The things they've done...

[ he mock shivered, because while he appreciated a few of the "help" he's gained from one event or another, some were much better avoided. Some secrets should be kept secret, but then he shook his head again, immediately apologetic. ]

Ah, sorry. I'm afraid my mind runs away from me at times. I've been told its a habit, if you spend too much time alone.

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