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Cisco Ramon is an anomaly (onlygoodvibes) wrote in somerealityweb,
@ 2019-11-17 06:59:00

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~~I'm tired of being alone~~ how exactly do people meet each other? For like.. Relationships. Asking for a friend.

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	mouthyasever 2019-11-17 03:11 pm UTC (link)
	I met a lot of my past boyfriends at bars or work. My current one? We were seven. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	onlygoodvibes 2019-11-17 03:17 pm UTC (link)
	Bars huh...oh. This person currently has no one like that around, but isn't so good on the classic social stuff in that sense. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	ladyshazam 2019-11-17 03:45 pm UTC (link)
	Take everything I say with a grain of salt, naturally, because I've never actually been in a relationship--- but I think the best ones start off as like friendships right? So maybe like find people who have the same interests as you, and just... be there. I'm not sure. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	survivingsolo 2019-11-17 03:46 pm UTC (link)
	I definitely am not the right person to ask. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	futureimperfect 2019-11-17 03:53 pm UTC (link)
	The same way they meet people for friendships, which generally involves leaving one's house. Or there are apps. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	leplusrapide 2019-11-17 04:08 pm UTC (link)
	Uh, just for the record, I am not that friend. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	mutantprincess 2019-11-17 04:11 pm UTC (link)
	Fun Fact! Boys have cooties. Thats why no one wants a relashunship with them! (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	undeadhorror 2019-11-17 04:12 pm UTC (link)
	Some people are meant to die alone. You're not one of them. It'll happen when its meant to happen, you just haven't met the right person yet. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	hanabbott 2019-11-17 04:14 pm UTC (link)
	I met Jim through the network. We had a couple of conversations and then I offered to help him write to the Entity about the Youth Center, and it started to grow from there. I mean there was that upset when I left, but thank Helga I returned. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	nowyoufall 2019-11-17 04:23 pm UTC (link)
	Well, I mostly met them by accident. And then we became friends. And, it kind of grew from there. Not that anyone should use my relationship with Anders as any sort of example. But, mostly I made sure he knew that I cared about him, as more than friends. And, left the rest up to him. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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jumps
2019-11-17 04:37 pm UTC (link)

Not sure. I've heard putting yourself out there by doing things can help. Some people say when you stop looking it happens. You bump into someone somewhere for some reason, start talking, and, if you like them, eventually ask them out and see where it goes. I think the important part is getting out of your bubble and interacting with people. Honestly it's probably just dumb luck in the end, though you probably have to help that dumb luck along a bit by doing more than sitting around, waiting for it to happen. At least, that's my guess.

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	imadeawish 2019-11-17 06:00 pm UTC (link)
	Try activities where you actually end up talking to people, not just being in the vicinity. Something like a game night, and not just a movie night. Or dancing. Take a cooking class. ...Most of my advice is from movies, I've been in, though. I married a fan, and it ended badly, ~~and I~~. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	muthafukkaaaas 2019-11-17 06:04 pm UTC (link)
	If you fancy someone just ask if they're into it? I mean I normally met people at school or clubs and stuff. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	frostandsnow 2019-11-17 06:06 pm UTC (link)
	Im not sure there's any real 'one way' Just be social, be open to whatever and it'll happen. Cisco Your friend, huh? (Reply to this) (Thread)

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Cisco | Caitlin -

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halflistening
2019-11-17 06:12 pm UTC (link)

I'm seconding the friendship route. Every relationship I've had that didnt have a solid friendship at the base of it has ended badly.

So tell your friend to go out and meet people with similar interests and make some friends. If you (general purposes, not you in particular) find someone you want to kiss all the time and they want to kiss you back, great. If not, at least you have a new friend or two that you can hang with.

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	theghostking 2019-11-17 06:20 pm UTC (link)
	summoning rituals, complete with sacrifices to the appropriate gods? (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	machinesrus 2019-11-17 06:26 pm UTC (link)
	Dig them out of an abandoned Russian bunker. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	quattuor 2019-11-17 06:50 pm UTC (link)
	Oh man. I think it just sort of depends? Dave was the one soldier who didn't think I was crazy - a little weird, but not crazy - and kind of tried to put me through basic training in the middle of a war zone. But we were friends first, or brothers in arms, whichever. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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ashtawawidiwin
2019-11-17 06:59 pm UTC (link)

I've found that when I've been specifically looking for something romantic, it didn't work very well. I over-romanticised people, ignored red flags or incompatibilities, put up with things I shouldn't have - or gone the other direction in trying to be aware of that and dismissed people for picky, petty reasons. It's usually worked best when things evolve organically. But that doesn't mean you can't change how you meet people. I got a much wider circle of acquaintances when I focused on my interests instead of just socialising with people through work. Things like art classes, cooking classes, workout groups at the gym, even if it was something I didn't actually need to learn because I already knew it, it let me meet people as well as potentially getting a new perspective on the subject.

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	solona 2019-11-17 07:03 pm UTC (link)
	Stop waiting for the right moment. There is no right moment. Years can pass in the blink of an eye, and then you'll find yourself wondering why you did not go for it sooner. (Reply to this)

	notyourplayboy 2019-11-17 08:39 pm UTC (link)
	Hire them and then take years to realize you love them. No? Alright, I'm out then. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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Cisco | Tony -

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Cisco | Tony -

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	brainiac 2019-11-17 08:40 pm UTC (link)
	I [...] do not know. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	halfthere 2019-11-17 10:45 pm UTC (link)
	Amortentia. (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	impulsivewolf 2019-11-17 11:24 pm UTC (link)
	Isn't this something "your friend" should know already? (Reply to this) (Thread)

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	comespywithme 2019-11-17 11:58 pm UTC (link)
	Well. I think being friends is the best place to start. Because if you can't be friends, being more than friends is going to be even harder. Also, don't be afraid to actually tell them how you feel. Waiting for years doesn't cut it. (Reply to this)