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Tweak says, "ASLOOP"

Liam has gained (perspective) wrote in doors,
@ 2014-02-24 09:57:00

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Ash/Casey

kryptonslast
2014-02-25 12:24 am UTC (link)

I know that, but that isn't a good way to get the support you need.

I want to talk about why it went so far south. It wasn't supposed to be a fight, Ash. It wasn't supposed to be me against you and vice versa.

I know this is all still new and a fresh wound, but I meant it when I said you had my support. But I feel like you don't actually want it unless I agree with everything you do and say. Support doesn't work that way.

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perspective
2014-02-25 03:11 am UTC (link)

I know it isn't. I do know that.

But I'm so damned scared, Casey, and it feels like no matter what I'm going to do, someone's going to be upset with me. Or I'm going to be upset with myself. I'm not used to being the person causing contention in the family. And now, I don't know what to do.

I want the baby. Maybe it's not the best decision, but it's what I want. But if I do that, I'm just hurting all of you. If I give it up for adoption, I'm still not going to be happy, but the rest of you would be happier with that. But the thought of giving a baby up just makes my heart ache. This is something I didn't know I wanted until it happened, and now I can't imagine not going through with it and that scares me.

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Re: Ash/Casey

kryptonslast
2014-02-25 03:21 am UTC (link)

Ashleigh, if this is something you want, then you have to deal with the consequences. We all have to deal with the consequences of our own choices. No one is exempt from that.

You know what these people are capable of doing. You were warned of how manipulative they are. Maybe you think that doesn't apply to you, and that is a decision only you can make.

However, because of what these people are capable of doing, and what they already have done, you cannot realistically expect the members of this family, or anyone else involved, to support any decision that allows that family an avenue into this one.

People are going to be upset no matter what decisions get made, Ashleigh. But it is your decision to make and if you want to have this baby. Then have this baby. But think long and hard about what kind of life the baby will have. And make sure that you are capable of providing it with the life it deserves.

Will we be here to help you? Yes. Will we be here to pretend that everything is okay? No. Because everything is not okay. But please remember what has already happened before you decide to allow these people access to an innocent child that you are responsible for.

I can't tell you what to do, I know what I think you should do. And maybe Neil thinks something else. And Louis thinks another thing. And Dair has his ideas. And the child's father thinks something else. And you have all of these opinions flying at you. But if you already know what you want to do. Then do it. But remember that it is YOUR choice. And that there are ALWAYS consequences to those choices, some good, some bad. Some easy to see coming, and some that will shock the shit out of you when they rear their ugly heads.

There is no decision that will make everyone happy. There never is. In anything. Not the big decisions like this one, and not the small decisions we make every day. It's not your job to make everyone happy. It's your job to make yourself happy. And if you decide to keep the child, its your job to make sure the child is safe and protected from harm and well loved.

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	Re: Ash/Casey perspective 2014-02-25 03:34 am UTC (link)
	[...] I'd be damning any child I brought into this world with him as the father. They'd always be in a place of conflict, because I already know that his family wouldn't let the child get far. They'll want to be part of it's life. And that's not fair, to bring someone into this world and put them in that position, is it? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Ash/Casey kryptonslast 2014-02-25 03:42 am UTC (link)
	No it isn't fair. But you hold the choices here, Ash. You hold all the cards. We can talk to lawyers. We can make this complicated for all of them. But once it's started, we'd have to see it through. The law is in your favor here, Ashleigh. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Ash/Casey perspective 2014-02-25 03:51 am UTC (link)
	I'm not going to go out of my way to make it complicated for them, Casey. He's the father, and I'm going to be the person who makes it so he can't be near his child. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Re: Ash/Casey

kryptonslast
2014-02-25 03:54 am UTC (link)

I have no idea what you're getting at then. You say it's not fair to let a family of psychos</strike< them near a child. Which I would agree. But when I mention the possibility that you simply don't let them around the child, you say that isn't what you want to do. You say being pregnant is a huge catastrophe, but when I suggest termination, you say that isn't what you want to do. You say you don't want to give the baby up for adoption. Unfortunately there isn't a fourth option I can think to give you. I mean, you don't have to decide today what you're going to do - but eventually a decision will have to be made. And it will be on you to make it. What is it you want at the end of the day, kid?

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