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Tweak says, "AKUSAI "

Peggy Carter (offthepeg) wrote in compass_network,
@ 2013-05-16 16:14:00

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!open, ~isabel lane, ~peggy carter

filtered to the girls
I need some advice.

On Saturday night, Steve is taking me out and apparently we're going dancing but I don't know anything more than that.

He and I are both very shy and quite old-fashioned (but I suppose time is relative here) so I need some advice about... sex.

My mother died long before she could tell me about such things so I'm asking advice here. What is a woman's... role? I know mechanics of course and I've heard gossip but it would be nice to have some honest truth from real people.

More specifically, how do I know that we're both ready for such a step forward? I don't want to risk ruining things.

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offthepeg
2013-05-16 04:52 pm UTC (link)

Thank you for being truthful and actually incredible helpful in this subject. Steve is not the most open and communicative man, I think, but I feel closer to him lately than I have ever felt. I know I love him and that he loves me.

I will talk to him when I can next, and will try to open up both myself and him. I just don't want to waste what time we may have together here.

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turukano
2013-05-16 05:12 pm UTC (link)

We elves are not always difficult, I promise you that.

Communication is never a waste of time, my dear. I know that if I had an hour left in the world with my husband, I should not spend that time engaged in intimacies, but rather filling it with words and discussion and knowing him as opposed to his body.

Sex is wonderful! There is no doubt. I have enjoyed every time I have made love to Turukáno, and there are thousands of them. But more precious are those moments, holding hands, staring into each other's eyes, and sharing ones dreams. And those are the moments you hold on to forever.

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	offthepeg 2013-05-16 05:16 pm UTC (link)
	If I may ask a sensitive question... does the first time hurt as much as is reported? This is also something I'm worried about; not for me, but for Steve. He would be terrified of hurting me, I know. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	turukano 2013-05-16 05:19 pm UTC (link)
	You may ask me anything you like. I have been a married woman for ten of your lifetimes, and very little about such things embarrasses me. I would not say that it hurts. It may be a bit strange, a bit uncomfortable, but if you have a sensitive lover who takes his time with you, even that will pass quickly. Do not be afraid. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	offthepeg 2013-05-16 05:21 pm UTC (link)
	Thank you. I'll have to ask a few more women about that but it's nice to hear it doesn't hurt. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	isabellane 2013-05-16 11:21 pm UTC (link)
	Sorry to intrude here but, have you ever ridden a horse? I know it's a strange question, but it is pertinent. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	offthepeg 2013-05-17 07:21 am UTC (link)
	Yes, I rode horses at my grandmother's farm in the Cotswolds... why? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Peggy

isabellane
2013-05-17 01:25 pm UTC (link)

Part of the cause of the pain of losing ones virginity is the breaking of the hymen. Studies have shown, though, that sometimes horseback riding does that, though in a way that doesn't hurt. So, it's entirely likely that the only pain you'd feel is certain muscles stretching to accommodate something that they're not used to being put in there. And that usually doesn't hurt that much or for very long, especially if he's slow and gentle. So it could end up not hurting at all.

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	Re: Peggy offthepeg 2013-05-17 01:27 pm UTC (link)
	That's a big relief. Thank you Isabel (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Peggy isabellane 2013-05-17 01:35 pm UTC (link)
	No problem at all (Reply to this) (Parent)

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