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Tweak says, "PUT SHOE ON HEAD"

"Not" John Harrison (respondedinkind) wrote in wariscomingcom,
@ 2014-09-28 22:24:00

Entry tags:

bo hess, harry lockhart, john watson, khan

John, Jacen, Sherlock, Harry (guy friends, basically!)
I find myself a bit confused.

Where, exactly, does the line fall between joining a friend for outings and dating? What does one do on a date? And how do you know if you're on one?

[Tahiri]

It seems I need a woman's advice.

I need a gift. For a special person. One I care for. But I do not want it to send any sort of message that may be awkward.

What do I do?

[Bo H]

Are you enjoying school?

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	Guy Friends Filter bad_narrator 2014-09-29 03:12 am UTC (link)
	If you like her, and you get the whole butterflies in the stomach thing, and you want to kiss her, it's a date. I mean, as long as she feels the same, it's a date. If only one of you feels that, it's the friendzone. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Guy Friends Filter respondedinkind 2014-09-29 03:22 am UTC (link)
	Butterflies? Is that what they're calling it? How do you tell if she does, too? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Guy Friends Filter bad_narrator 2014-09-29 03:36 am UTC (link)
	If "it" is the fluttery feeling in your gut, then yeah. Yeah, that part is harder to tell. Honestly? Telling her, and then asking how she feels is the only way to know for sure. Unless she does it first. Or get someone else to ask. But it's better to ask yourself. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Guy Friends Filter respondedinkind 2014-09-29 03:41 am UTC (link)
	I suppose that may be a good term for it. To be honest, I have led wars, fought battles, killed and been killed. I have even held babies. And that is still the most terrifying thing anyone has ever proposed. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Guy Friends Filter bad_narrator 2014-09-29 03:58 am UTC (link)
	Welcome to dating women, bro. Or, maybe dating. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Guy Friends Filter respondedinkind 2014-09-29 04:19 am UTC (link)
	Why must it be complicated? In the end, isn't it merely meant for procreation anyway? It should be simple and scientific. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Guy Friends Filter bad_narrator 2014-09-29 04:23 am UTC (link)
	Not really. It's about love. You know, finding your soulmate and all that. You can have a kid with anyone, but finding your perfect match is different. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Guy Friends Filter respondedinkind 2014-09-29 05:00 am UTC (link)
	Isn't the phrase "soulmate" a bit far fetched? That implies there is only one person for everyone. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Guy Friends Filter

bad_narrator
2014-09-29 07:24 am UTC (link)

I don't know about whether there's only one or what, but I do believe that there are certain people that are just destined to be together. But that doesn't mean you can't have something meaningful with someone who's not your match, because that's part of figuring it out. Like, my ex-wife, she wasn't the one, but I did love her and we had a good thing for a while, I think. Does that make sense?

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	Guy Friends Filter respondedinkind 2014-09-29 03:05 pm UTC (link)
	I cannot believe in destiny. I prefer to think we make our own fates. It makes sense. I just have a difficult time understanding how any of this is possible. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	khan \| Bo itscontaminated 2014-09-29 03:30 am UTC (link)
	Yes. It's a bit silly though. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Khan \| Bo respondedinkind 2014-09-29 03:34 am UTC (link)
	And why is that? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Khan \| Bo itscontaminated 2014-09-29 04:59 am UTC (link)
	I can paint at home. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Khan \| Bo respondedinkind 2014-09-29 05:01 am UTC (link)
	It is not their fault that you are far advanced for your age. I believe, if you wish, you can take a test and move ahead a year so you are more mentally in line with your classmates. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Khan \| Bo itscontaminated 2014-09-29 09:21 am UTC (link)
	But they're nice people too. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Khan \| Bo respondedinkind 2014-09-29 03:06 pm UTC (link)
	They can be nice and still be behind you intellectually. Many of my friends are. The children in first grade are probably quite nice as well. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Khan \| Bo itscontaminated 2014-09-29 11:07 pm UTC (link)
	But maybe then they'll think I'm not nice. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	Guy friends imhisblogger 2014-09-29 04:30 am UTC (link)
	~~Is this the part where I should step in and~~ Why not ask her? I'm not exactly an expert on this sort of thing. Granted I've not been on a date in ages. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Guy friends respondedinkind 2014-09-29 04:59 am UTC (link)
	Because that fills me with a sense of terror the likes of which I have never seen? Why not? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	imhisblogger 2014-09-29 05:06 am UTC (link)
	Welcome to women. Suppose I've gotten comfortable with the notion of being alone is all. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Filter respondedinkind 2014-09-29 06:04 am UTC (link)
	I think I was better off before this was a thing. So had I. Damned women ruining everything. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	Khan hrosha_gul 2014-09-29 09:15 am UTC (link)
	You are aware that I'm not exactly a typical woman, right? What kind of special person? A friend? A date? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Tahiri respondedinkind 2014-09-29 03:07 pm UTC (link)
	You are the closest thing I know to one. She is...more than a friend. At least, I think so. I would like her to be more than that, as well, but I do not wish to push things. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Khan

hrosha_gul
2014-09-29 10:08 pm UTC (link)

You might want to know some more girly women at some point.

Okay, this is based on some of what I know, some of what I've read. Bearing in mind that I know nothing about this kind of thing, it's not like Jacen and I are even really in a relationship in the conventional sense.

Flowers. Women like flowers. Go for a quality bunch without going crazily overboard. Classy, you know? And maybe something that speaks to who she is. Does she have a favorite author? A good edition of a book she loves might be an idea. Or tickets to a show. That's the kind of thing only you can work out, you know her.

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