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dyson (terence fowler) (bigwolfpants) wrote in thedoorway,
@ 2014-05-10 17:45:00

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!network post, dyson, helena g wells, jessica jones (616), kate beckett, martha jones, myka bering, sam winchester

Filtered away from Kenzi Malikov

Last week, I had the delightful experience of gaining a new set of memories. To say it was unsettling would be an understatement.

I understand this is a common experience around here. How do the rest of you deal with it? Specifically, what do you do when those memories involve others from your world. Do you tell them about the future? Even when it's about as horrible as it can get?

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neversurrender
2014-05-10 11:18 pm UTC (link)

For me, it mainly took some time to process them. But most of it was information I'd already gotten from my "source material", which made it less of a surprise, at least a little bit.

As for telling other people from your world, I think that's probably going to have to be your call to make. You could ask them if they'd want to know their future, if you don't already know how they feel about it.

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	bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 03:05 am UTC (link)
	I don't think she should know. I wish I didn't. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	neversurrender 2014-05-11 03:18 am UTC (link)
	Do you know how she feels about having a decision about what she should and shouldn't know made for her? Because I've never met anyone who's very fond of that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 03:48 am UTC (link)
	I'd rather have her mad at me than hurting. And this information would hurt her, no question. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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changetherules
2014-05-10 11:21 pm UTC (link)

When Myka and I "remembered" new things, we did so at the same time; we thus had the benefit of coping with them together instead of having to explain things. There were things in those memories that we acted on to try to avert possible tragedy. It also gave us an opportunity to explain some things to each other.

Perhaps ask the other parties in those memories if they would wish to know or not. Let it be their decision to know or not know. Trying to keep it secret to protect them may well backfire.

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	beringandwells 2014-05-11 01:23 am UTC (link)
	I'm so thankful for the fact that we received ours at the same time. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 03:06 am UTC (link)
	The thing is, I'm sure she thinks she'd like to know, but I really don't think she would. Not if she knew how bad it was. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	changetherules 2014-05-11 10:11 am UTC (link)
	What you've been saying here makes me wonder-- are you actually trying to protect her, or afraid of having to deal with her reactions to what you say? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-12 05:56 am UTC (link)
	I'm afraid the news will break her. Kenzi is incredibly strong, but this is something I'm not sure even she can recover from. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	beringandwells 2014-05-11 01:28 am UTC (link)
	Helena's all ready said what advice I would have given. But I will add that if none of the other parties involved want to know talking to someone may help you process everything (Reply to this) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 03:07 am UTC (link)
	I'm not sure I should tell her even if she does want to, knowing what there is TO know now. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	beringandwells 2014-05-11 09:53 pm UTC (link)
	In my experience keeping secrets even in the name of protecting someone never ends well. Hearing it from a friend would be better than finding it out from a complete stranger. Or online. In the end the choice is yours. But I would at least see if she wants to know. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-12 06:07 am UTC (link)
	You may be right. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	roughjewel 2014-05-11 03:02 am UTC (link)
	Only if they really want to know. If they don't ask, then don't tell. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 03:07 am UTC (link)
	And if they do want to know? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	roughjewel 2014-05-11 03:08 am UTC (link)
	Depends on if you're a liar or not. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 03:42 am UTC (link)
	Not usually, no. But how can you be sure you want to know something when you don't know what it is? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	ktbecks 2014-05-11 04:30 am UTC (link)
	Keeping that from Kenzi is going to be about as successful as me keeping my new memories from Castle. At the very least, you should give her the choice about if she wants to know. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 04:33 am UTC (link)
	I don't even know how to tell her, Beckett. I don't know if I could even get the words out. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

ktbecks
2014-05-11 04:40 am UTC (link)

Yeah, I get it. But I think you owe it to Kenzi to try if she decides she wants to know.

But, to be fair, I did a crap job of explaining what happened to Castle. I couldn't stop crying. I think, in the end, he just watched. I remember waking up from a nap and he was.....shaken, I guess is the word.

Point is, I don't think its right to take away the choice. Maybe she doesn't want to know, but if she does then....suggest you watch it together, or something.

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	Beckett bigwolfpants 2014-05-11 05:52 am UTC (link)
	And if Castle had died? If he'd watched the love of his life get killed right in front of him and then he'd sacrificed himself... I can barely wrap my own head around it, let alone find a way to explain it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	itsdoctornow 2014-06-02 03:28 am UTC (link)
	I haven't gained new memories yet -- and I'm not sure that I ever will, so I can't say this with certainty, but I like to think I'd tell that person if it effects them. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-06-02 11:26 am UTC (link)
	That seems to be the general,consensus. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	itsdoctornow 2014-06-02 08:56 pm UTC (link)
	So it seems. It is a hard decision to make, though. Both have their pros and cons. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	bigwolfpants 2014-06-02 11:08 pm UTC (link)
	Especially when there's a lot more bad than good to it. Actually, it's pretty much all bad. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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