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Tweak says, "Sk8r, l8r"

Cal Kestis (justhiding) wrote in somerealityweb,
@ 2020-06-11 08:56:00

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active: ellie phimister, active: michelle jones, active: tony stark, inactive: abigail keener, inactive: cal kestis, inactive: jaina solo

...exactly how healthy are smoothies as meals? I discovered a place next to work and smoothies are way faster to eat. Gives me more time to play with my projects.

At least they taste better than the rations on Bracca.

[Tony]
Do I want to know why BD calls you Uncle Tony now?

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justhiding
2020-06-12 10:19 pm UTC (link)

I get not being a people person. Look, I spent years fending for myself so I sometimes forget how to behave. It is an excuse and I know that, but I honestly wasn't trying to upset you. I wasn't trying to say you think others are idiots, I was trying to say people might take offense at advice they don't want...and promptly made my point by upsetting you.

I can appreciate you helping people.

I still don't understand how I questioned your ethics and motives. If you explain it I can meditate on my behavior.

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machinesrus
2020-06-12 11:42 pm UTC (link)

The difference being you asked.

I recall you being one of the people who's questioned before why I would be interested in people's medical history or anonymised bio data. Which, again, is understandable and I'm happy to answer questions especially when I'm asking a favour, but it comes across poorly when the interaction consists of nothing but questioning without even a perfunctory acknowledgement of the explanation.

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	justhiding 2020-06-12 11:52 pm UTC (link)
	Sorry. ...so because I asked a question and failed to say "thanks" after you gave an answer you have decided I am bad news. Got it. I won't ask you any more questions so I don't run the risk of upsetting you. For the record, not answering had nothing to do with you, your ethics, or motives. But clearly I need to work on manners now that I have time. Noted. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

machinesrus
2020-06-13 12:38 am UTC (link)

I'm not saying not to ask questions. I try to be transparent, I want people to ask if something isn't clear. I'm trying to explain how it felt as a recent example that's easy to remember. If I'm misinterpreting things, that's great. I come from somewhere it was dangerous not to notice even tiny things like that, and as much as I've managed to adjust - I sure as hell wouldn't have been even having this conversation before a few months ago - it doesn't all just go away and it's especially not going to if I don't figure out where clashes of perspective like this are happening.

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