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Tweak says, "Say hello to your son"

Donna Troy (thislifechoseus) wrote in rooms,
@ 2014-11-07 09:12:00

Entry tags:

*journal, dick grayson, donna troy, eddie nigma, hal jordan, john blake

public, dc heroes, dick grayson
[As Anon]

I was wearing something incredibly small and tight, we decided to say to hell with it in a booth, and rudely interrupted by the hotel.

[As Donna T]

[Locked to DC Heroes/Batfam/JLA (everyone, okay)]

Everyone get out okay?

[Locked to Dick Grayson]

Well that was fun.

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	Re: donna/eddie riddlethem 2014-11-07 03:23 pm UTC (link)
	Bad memory? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie thislifechoseus 2014-11-07 03:25 pm UTC (link)
	A happy one that reminded me of a bad one. [...] It's common knowledge in my circles, but probably not to you. I was married with a son before. My husband and son died in a car accident a few years ago. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie riddlethem 2014-11-07 03:34 pm UTC (link)
	I'm so sorry. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie thislifechoseus 2014-11-07 03:38 pm UTC (link)
	So am I. I try not to think about it on most days, but I saw a woman give birth and she was happy with her baby. I couldn't handle it. [...] So that's my sad tale, how about yours? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie riddlethem 2014-11-07 04:10 pm UTC (link)
	That one messed me up, too. There was one where a father was holding his baby girl with his loving family. [...] My wife can't have kids. So. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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thislifechoseus
2014-11-07 04:24 pm UTC (link)

I'm sorry. For both of you. [...] I'm sure you've heard the usual response, that you can adopt, there are other options. I technically was created/adopted by non-traditional means, so I know personally that I am happy about my relationship with Diana and our mother. [...] But I also know that there is something special about having a child that is half me and half him, and to have that option taken away is devastating. Even with all the options, it's okay to grieve when something that important is not an option.

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	Re: donna/eddie riddlethem 2014-11-07 04:36 pm UTC (link)
	I know, I know. It spiraled, honestly. Not having kids ended up with her blaming herself, which lead to tension at home. We stopped acting like ourselves. Now, neither of us are in a place where we could provide the kind of family we wanted to. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Re: donna/eddie

thislifechoseus
2014-11-07 04:46 pm UTC (link)

My husband and I were newly divorced when he died, although it's hard to think of him as an ex in that context, he was still mine, as irrational as that sounds. So I can't say I'm an expert on successful marriages. But it's important that you could see where it was going wrong and that you stopped being yourselves. A lot of people can't look past their pain to fix problems. [...] How bad are you still feeling about the memory?

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Re: donna/eddie

riddlethem
2014-11-07 04:52 pm UTC (link)

Good relationships are hard to keep together when it comes to people like us. Steph and I aren't divorced, I don't think it's ever going to get that far, but we split to try and sort out our problems. ~~and now she's~~ [Blink, blink.] The way my mind is- well. It's basically a disability. And, I see all these couples with simple love that makes sense and I think I can't ever have that because of the way I am.

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Re: donna/eddie

thislifechoseus
2014-11-07 04:59 pm UTC (link)

It's especially hard when you're with someone who isn't a superhero. Terry was a college professor. I tried to quit, and when I chose to go back, that was the end for us. I was so mad at him then, but now I think I would've done things differently. Hindsight. [...] It's good to try to sort out your problems. Couples can get absorbed in us and forget about me. Us us us all the time, or me me me all the time, leads to problems. [...] You mean the riddles and puzzles? So it might not be just about your marriage. You yourself wanted to be more like the man in the memory?

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Re: donna/eddie

riddlethem
2014-11-07 05:08 pm UTC (link)

There was a while when Stephanie couldn't crime fight and it was very difficult for the both of us. [...] I want her to be her own person. To feel strong and figure out what she wants without worrying about me. [Blink, blink.] Exactly. And, no I think I would rather be me than change for something that I want. If no one can love me as I am, then that's just the way things have to be.

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Re: donna/eddie

thislifechoseus
2014-11-07 05:24 pm UTC (link)

I don't think I'd date a normal civilian again, or I'm very reluctant to. It's too difficult for other people to understand. I loved Terry, but I was born a superhero, and I could never talk to him about it. I still wonder sometimes about how Lois and Clark manage to make it work, in my world. That's a huge part of your life they can't share or be a part of. So you and Stephanie at least were on the same page there. [...] And who are you exactly, then? This person you want to be loved for.

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	Re: donna/eddie riddlethem 2014-11-07 05:46 pm UTC (link)
	That's a riddle I just don't know yet. I only know what I'm not. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie thislifechoseus 2014-11-07 08:17 pm UTC (link)
	You think she's her own person now? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie riddlethem 2014-11-08 01:55 am UTC (link)
	She's working on it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie thislifechoseus 2014-11-08 03:12 am UTC (link)
	It sounds like you're both working on it. [...] What does your version of happy look like? Not the kind you saw in those memories of someone else. Your version. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie riddlethem 2014-11-09 03:36 pm UTC (link)
	I don't know anymore. It used to be a family and a job I didn't hate. Kids and a wife. Working on helping Gotham while playing old guard for the Justice League. The last part is there and I'm happy with it. The first part? That just isn't in the cards anymore. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: donna/eddie thislifechoseus 2014-11-09 04:15 pm UTC (link)
	So you have the job down, Justice League, Gotham work. [...] I'm sorry. Losing that isn't something people can just shake off and move on from immediately. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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