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Tweak says, "but i want an oompa loompa now"

Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

Entry tags:

:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 09:51 pm UTC (link)
	I didn't think it was, but I'm also still sort of a kid, or feel like one, anyway. What do I really know? [He sighs, running his fingers through his hair.] There must be some special adult ability that I haven't developed yet. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-19 09:59 pm UTC (link)
	[Agrees, but:] It's fine. I'm the same, you know. I know I can be childish at times... and maybe a bit of a brat. [Can... admit it. Even her instructor said she is no better than a baby vampire. Just like an infant.] But that just means people like us see the world with a different perspective. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:05 pm UTC (link)
	Our perspective is full of shit. I don't care that a lot of people have been forced to do these therapy sessions. It always seems like everyone else's got it better because they have other people who give a shit. [That is exactly how it seems to him, anyway.] Maybe if I had a different perspective, everything wouldn't be shitty. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-19 10:22 pm UTC (link)
	[Quiet for a time] . . . I don't know how to feel otherwise, though. It's just that it- everything is a little lonely. Don't you think? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	that awkward moment I picked this icon then write this tag and THEN notice the keywords... sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:32 pm UTC (link)
	If by a little you mean a lot, then yeah, I agree. Lonely and stupid. It would be less aggravating if everyone was bathing in their own blood. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kflkfjsls OTL trappedinresin 2013-09-19 10:39 pm UTC (link)
	Actually it'd be really troublesome to me if everyone was. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	B) sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:47 pm UTC (link)
	[Tilts his head and continues on as if this is a totally normal conversation.] It would be way more fun though. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-19 10:51 pm UTC (link)
	Some vampires would probably agree. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:58 pm UTC (link)
	[Right. Vampires.] I should have been a vampire. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-19 11:01 pm UTC (link)
	It sounds more glamorous than it is, usually. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 11:05 pm UTC (link)
	I'm not into glamour, but I am into making people bleed. [He thinks this over, a serious, contemplative expression on his face.] I suppose I could get used to the taste of blood. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-19 11:07 pm UTC (link)
	The problem with being a vampire is time. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 11:28 pm UTC (link)
	Ugh, right. 'Cause of that immortal bullshit, right? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-19 11:43 pm UTC (link)
	Mm. [It's the slow and painful down fall of the majority of the pureblood.] If you're the only one who is immortal, then eventually problems arise. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 11:51 pm UTC (link)
	I get it. It makes sense. [He puts a hand to his forehead, imaging how absolutely terrible that would be.] I changed my mind. I would never want to be a vampire. Unless I achieved ultimate neverending happiness, but that would never happen. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-20 07:40 pm UTC (link)
	[A faint smile] Wouldn't that be the perfect life. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 07:57 pm UTC (link)
	Yep. Too bad it can't be like that. It's not like it's something people want or anything. No one gets anything they want. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-20 08:29 pm UTC (link)
	I guess it's as they say. Life's not fair. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 08:44 pm UTC (link)
	Exactly. [A sigh of frustration.] I want to throw up every time I think about it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-20 09:11 pm UTC (link)
	[For a moment she's quiet, only able to nod, gently in agreement. After a moment though she glances back over. There's a touch of hesitation, but ultimately she decides to ask anyway.] Who is it that you miss so much, Sougo-san...? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 09:21 pm UTC (link)
	Ah. My sister. [He pauses for a moment.] If there's a word that means more than missing someone, then it's that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-20 09:27 pm UTC (link)
	I understand... [Siblings. It's a bond that only another person who has-- or had-- siblings will ever understand fully.] I miss my brother, too. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 09:39 pm UTC (link)
	You may think you understand, but that doesn't mean you do. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-20 09:41 pm UTC (link)
	Not the circumstances. But I do know what it feels like to care for and love a sibling. And that losing that can be devastating. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 09:48 pm UTC (link)
	If that's supposed to make me feel better, know that it doesn't. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)