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Briseis, daughter of Briseus | The Iliad (of_lyrnessus) wrote in compass_network,
@ 2013-01-09 02:23:00

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!open, ~tony stark

I hope I am not bothering anyone by posting this, but I am concerned over things that have happened tonight and thought I would ask. I know I am from a very different time than the rest of you, but it appears that I am not quite sure how things work here.

Is it considered wrong now to offer hospitality?

In my day, it was a great wrong to be inhospitable to someone who was in your land, or in your kingdom. Wars were caused - and averted - by such things. And yet, when I offered hospitality to a troubled man tonight I was insulted grievously. Have I done wrong? I hope I do not now live in a world where it is considered improper to be hospitable and kind to a fellow traveler.

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	Briseis aedwardstark 2013-01-09 08:11 am UTC (link)
	There are too many people in my time that turn their back on those who are suffering simply because taking care of them would be inconvenient. It's not right. I applaud you wanting to help whenever and however you can. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Mr. Stark of_lyrnessus 2013-01-09 08:14 am UTC (link)
	It is the job of a lady, to care for the men who come her way. I never minded doing that, only being forced to do so. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Briseis aedwardstark 2013-01-09 08:16 am UTC (link)
	Do what makes you happy. That's the key. Don't worry about what others think. And if a situation arises where you wish not to participate, it is perfectly okay to say no. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Mr. Stark of_lyrnessus 2013-01-09 08:18 am UTC (link)
	It has been a long time since I have been happy, since my fate was in my hands. It is...frightening to me. Overwhelming. I have belonged to a man for so long I do not know what it is to act out of my own desires. But I do wish to try. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Briseis aedwardstark 2013-01-09 08:23 am UTC (link)
	When you get accustomed to a certain way of life, it's very hard to learn a new one. But the first lesson you should learn is to do what you know to be right, regardless of what others may say. And take it one step at a time. If you ever want to talk, just let me know. I'm not sure how much help I can be, but I've been told I'm a good listener when I want to be. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Mr. Stark

of_lyrnessus
2013-01-09 08:39 am UTC (link)

You are very kind, Mr. Stark, sir.

I hope that this place will give me a chance to truly come to understand what it is I do want for myself. Over the last few years my life has been fully focused on pleasing the men in my life. My father, my husband, Achilles. The last two, of course, I shared intimacies with that were not entirely of my choice. I think that the next time I kiss a man, or am intimate with one, I should like it to be a man I choose, and when I choose for it to be. Perhaps that can be my first decision I make for myself here.

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	Briseis aedwardstark 2013-01-09 08:43 am UTC (link)
	Please, call me Tony. As I used to say, Mr. Stark was my father. You have the right to tell someone no just as much as the next person. And it is entirely up to you whether or not you are with someone in any way. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Your body is yours and yours only. No one has a right to make you do anything you don't want to do. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Mr. Tony

of_lyrnessus
2013-01-09 08:49 am UTC (link)

I should have liked to say no, but they would have beaten me...or even killed me and faced no consequences. For Achilles, after all, I was only a spoil of war. A prized one, perhaps, but I had monetary value like all his other prizes. And I would have been worth far less if I had been disobedient. So I did as I was told and tried to imagine I was somewhere else. When he died...just before I came here...I could not help but weep, for while I did not love him, Achilles did not beat me often, and I knew not what would become of me in the hands of the next man who possessed me. But now I am here...and perhaps I will be able to possess myself.

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Briseis

aedwardstark
2013-01-09 08:53 am UTC (link)

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. You lived in a terrible time when women were considered nothing more than possessions used to cook meals and bear children. I've always hated that there was a time like that. And there are still cultures that feel that way.

Every human being is equal to each other. No one has the right to possess anyway. Here, you are free to do as you choose, within reason of course, without fear of punishment. Please don't let anyone tell you that you are not your own person. You deserve a chance to figure out what it is that you want for yourself.

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	Mr. Tony of_lyrnessus 2013-01-09 07:41 pm UTC (link)
	Thank you, and I wish to do so very much. But I am not quite sure how to go about it. It is never something I have tried to do before. But I will continue to try, and make mistakes on my own terms, I suppose. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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