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Maryanne Elizabeth Walker (maryanne_walker) wrote in compass_network,
@ 2012-12-17 02:13:00

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So, okay, I wasn't going to get on a soap box about this whole sex thing, but I want to put my two cents out too.

I did the same exact thing while we were on Thomas. Do I regret doing it? No. Not at all. I didn't filter it from any kids, but the only kid we had on board was Matt, and he probably knew more about sex than I do. When he was 13.

I don't regret it even if it did put a bit of a stigma on me. Because I met the love of my life. And Daryl is the best man I have ever met. And it was supposed to be a one night stand. I was trolling for sex, on a train that was much smaller than this island is. That had fewer people on it, at the time, than this island does.

I guess what I'm asking is, give them a break. Who knows if they'll meet the person they will love for a lifetime, or just have one really good night of much needed sex. ~~Or a night of really bad shower all night~~ Because I've become a bit of a sap, I'd hope for the love for a lifetime. ~~Especially for Samir~~ Everybody deserves to feel that loved.

Who here is holy enough to point fingers and throw stones? Even if you think you are, because you think you are, you really aren't. If you don't like reading people's adverts about sex... Avert your eyes. Don't want your kids reading it? These computers aren't dinosaurs, put up the parental blocks. That's what they're there for.

Now I'm off my sex soapbox. Throw stones if you must, I've got a pretty thick hide, but I'll warn you, my claws and tongue are a lot sharper than any stones you can throw.

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ofthursdays
2012-12-17 08:45 am UTC (link)

I did the same thing on the boat. I regretted it. I gave myself away with no meaning, not to the love of my life. I didn't find him that way. I don't think either of our experiences can guide this as they conflict.

I would suggest filtering from children if these things are going to be done.

I am not pointing fingers but my experience with this wasn't good and I will say that I expect it is opening yourself to being taken advantage of and, perhaps, regret.

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	savedthechrldr 2012-12-17 08:47 am UTC (link)
	Dating is opening yourself to being taken advantage of. And of finding regret. I don't think picking someone up in a pub is necessarily any safer than propositioning people over the internet. Neither of them are my way, but...you know, live and let live. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	ofthursdays 2012-12-17 08:53 am UTC (link)
	Yes but it also allows getting to know someone before you decide to take that step, as I later did. It is easier to read people face to face. I assume you find each other easier to read than I do and I am proficient now. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

savedthechrldr
2012-12-17 08:55 am UTC (link)

Look, what it comes down to is that this is each of our choice to make. We don't have the right to tell other people how to live their lives. I don't pick people up at pubs or over the internet? Not my way. But it's not our place to judge if other people want to.

And maybe some people don't care if they know the other person. Maybe they're just in it for the sex. And there's nothing wrong with that either.

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ofthursdays
2012-12-17 08:59 am UTC (link)

I never told the young man what to do. I shared my experience and left him to do what he wished. I don't wish to see others suffer that pain through the same ignorance I had at that time.

It is not my place to judge the actions of humans, no, but I was speaking to him as a friend.

There is if someone wants more but doesn't know how to get it and no one will tell them.

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savedthechrldr
2012-12-17 09:03 am UTC (link)

Love and sex aren't the same thing. If you're lucky, they'll go together, but they're two separate things. You can love without sex, and have sex without love.

If people are really looking for love, then in my opinion they shouldn't be trolling for sex over the internet. Because doing that they'll probably find exactly what they're looking for - sex. But they might also find a partner, a friend, or maybe more. Who knows?

If you don't know how to find more, then nobody can tell you. Sorry. You can't tell someone how to find love, or how to fall in love. That's way too personal.

What it comes down to is just letting people live their lives the way they want to. As long as they're consenting adults, we need to just keep our noses out of other people's business and not be in their faces telling them they're loving wrong.

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ofthursdays
2012-12-17 09:07 am UTC (link)

I know. I have experienced both.

They might but they might not. I meant only to inform him. I wasn't trying to stop him. His actions were like mine hence my interest.

No but if something is stopping you others can help. That was my experience. It isn't always possible to be objective with yourself.

Loving? We aren't talking about love. We are talking about what could be a symptom. I don't regret talking to him and he was not offended.

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savedthechrldr
2012-12-17 09:12 am UTC (link)

By 'loving' I meant love and or sex. Maybe I should have said we shouldn't be telling people they're hooking up wrong. Would that be more clear?

I'm going to say it one more time, it's not anybody's business how people get together. Or what they do together. Or how they find their sexual partners. Hell, I met one of my girlfriends when I was the hospice nurse for her dying father. Who's to judge?