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Tweak says, "Sonny, this is urgent"

Maryanne Elizabeth Walker (maryanne_walker) wrote in compass_network,
@ 2012-12-17 02:13:00

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So, okay, I wasn't going to get on a soap box about this whole sex thing, but I want to put my two cents out too.

I did the same exact thing while we were on Thomas. Do I regret doing it? No. Not at all. I didn't filter it from any kids, but the only kid we had on board was Matt, and he probably knew more about sex than I do. When he was 13.

I don't regret it even if it did put a bit of a stigma on me. Because I met the love of my life. And Daryl is the best man I have ever met. And it was supposed to be a one night stand. I was trolling for sex, on a train that was much smaller than this island is. That had fewer people on it, at the time, than this island does.

I guess what I'm asking is, give them a break. Who knows if they'll meet the person they will love for a lifetime, or just have one really good night of much needed sex. ~~Or a night of really bad shower all night~~ Because I've become a bit of a sap, I'd hope for the love for a lifetime. ~~Especially for Samir~~ Everybody deserves to feel that loved.

Who here is holy enough to point fingers and throw stones? Even if you think you are, because you think you are, you really aren't. If you don't like reading people's adverts about sex... Avert your eyes. Don't want your kids reading it? These computers aren't dinosaurs, put up the parental blocks. That's what they're there for.

Now I'm off my sex soapbox. Throw stones if you must, I've got a pretty thick hide, but I'll warn you, my claws and tongue are a lot sharper than any stones you can throw.

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savedthechrldr
2012-12-17 09:03 am UTC (link)

Love and sex aren't the same thing. If you're lucky, they'll go together, but they're two separate things. You can love without sex, and have sex without love.

If people are really looking for love, then in my opinion they shouldn't be trolling for sex over the internet. Because doing that they'll probably find exactly what they're looking for - sex. But they might also find a partner, a friend, or maybe more. Who knows?

If you don't know how to find more, then nobody can tell you. Sorry. You can't tell someone how to find love, or how to fall in love. That's way too personal.

What it comes down to is just letting people live their lives the way they want to. As long as they're consenting adults, we need to just keep our noses out of other people's business and not be in their faces telling them they're loving wrong.

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ofthursdays
2012-12-17 09:07 am UTC (link)

I know. I have experienced both.

They might but they might not. I meant only to inform him. I wasn't trying to stop him. His actions were like mine hence my interest.

No but if something is stopping you others can help. That was my experience. It isn't always possible to be objective with yourself.

Loving? We aren't talking about love. We are talking about what could be a symptom. I don't regret talking to him and he was not offended.

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savedthechrldr
2012-12-17 09:12 am UTC (link)

By 'loving' I meant love and or sex. Maybe I should have said we shouldn't be telling people they're hooking up wrong. Would that be more clear?

I'm going to say it one more time, it's not anybody's business how people get together. Or what they do together. Or how they find their sexual partners. Hell, I met one of my girlfriends when I was the hospice nurse for her dying father. Who's to judge?

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	ofthursdays 2012-12-17 09:18 am UTC (link)
	I never said it was wrong. I only expressed concern because when I did the same I was in poor shape. And I will say it again, I was not judging. I was showing concern for my friend. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	savedthechrldr 2012-12-17 09:20 am UTC (link)
	Whatever, man. Sounds judging to me, but who am I to say. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	ofthursdays 2012-12-17 09:24 am UTC (link)
	I don't know you. I only know where my concern lies and is he doesn't object who else can? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	savedthechrldr 2012-12-17 09:27 am UTC (link)
	Like I said, dude, stepping out. All I know is that when you tell someone that you did something and regretted it, no matter how good your intentions were, that still feels judgmental. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	ofthursdays 2012-12-17 09:32 am UTC (link)
	And if you tell them you did it and didn't regret it it is the same. I was concerned because of where I was when I did the same thing. That is all. He understands and that is enough. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	savedthechrldr 2012-12-17 09:34 am UTC (link)
	You just don't tell them anything. You just let them live their lives and don't give advice unless they ask for it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	ofthursdays 2012-12-17 09:35 am UTC (link)
	You never advise your friends? Act on your concerns? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	savedthechrldr 2012-12-17 09:37 am UTC (link)
	I try not to unless they ask for it. I'm sure I've made mistakes, I'm human. Mostly. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	ofthursdays 2012-12-17 09:39 am UTC (link)
	I know I have made mistakes. Many. I have learned much. Perhaps not enough but a great deal. He was kind to me and I wished to return the kindness. That is all. I wish for him to find happiness. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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