Dear Rose,
First off, if you tell anyone about this missive, I will make certain that you are very sorry that you have done so.
Now, my question. I believe it is possible I may be in love with three women.
The first, we'll call her L, she's my best friend, you know? We've been friends since we were primary school age and I've loved her for almost that long. She's beautiful and smart and kind, and she's also very married. In fact, she's married to my worst enemy, as if it could not get worse than already being married. I know that things are hopeless, but I still dream about her sometimes and I can't seem to stop.
I thought maybe that it would help if I tried actually befriending another young woman, and one of my friends from school has a sister who is a beautiful and accomplished young woman. She's kind, and she's intelligent, and I enjoy conversations with her. Certainly I can imagine kissing her, or even marrying her, but she is... well, my father was a working class... well and she is certainly far above me socially. I work hard, and I think I can pass for a well-bred sort of gentleman, but I'm afraid her brother, my friend, and her father might oppose our being any thing other than friends.
And finally there is this woman that is... well, I don't really know how to describe her. She's a bit of a hippie, really. Into free love and all that, and I actually... well I had sex with her, and it was quite pleasant, then. And I don't know if I love her precisely, but I'm certainly fascinated by her. She sort of... well, I guess there's passion, is what you'd call it? I mean, we fight frequently, and we disagree on a number of very important issues. But...
So... I don't know what to do. I think that I should make an offer of marriage to the young woman who is kind, intelligent, and would make a delightful wife, but I'm afraid perhaps she will not consider me good enough for her. And the final, I cannot even think what to do, except that I don't really want to stop seeing her, but I suppose if I do offer marriage, I would need to. And unfortunately neither of these has entirely removed my head from thinking about L, whom I still have dreams about.
What do I do?
Single at Spinner's End