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Caroline Forbes (agelessbeauty) wrote in wariscomingcom,
@ 2014-11-25 05:16:00

Entry tags:

baelfire/neal cassidy, caroline forbes, georgina kincaid, rose tyler, vicki donovan

[No Mikaelsons, their SOs, or Hayley]

I need advice or I dunno tips. ~~Something~~.

What do you do when the man you love has a baby with another person? And its not cheating because technically he hasn't done it yet and even if he had you weren't together at that point? And she's an adorable little girl and its a good thing.

And you tried so hard to be okay with it because you don't want to be selfish.

But it hurts.

How do you make it not hurt?

Especially when you'll never be able to give him that. ~~When you'll just always be the gir~~

How do I stop feeling so damn selfish?

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feelingepic
2014-11-25 01:25 pm UTC (link)

Holy wow
...its no ones fault which makes it a million times more messed up and
Its not selifish
But

I wish I knew what to tell you. I honestly do. I've tried to blame Klaus, tried to blame the wolf girl, all of it.

But its circumstance. Its cruel, its unfair.

I guess you need to think about the fact that he does love you. I mean, Klaus freaking Mikaelson? He smiles when he's around you, he's much much less psychotic in general. Its clear the effect you have on him.

And yes. He loves that little girl. And Hayley will always be a part of that. But its you he's with. Its you he loves. You need to basically keep that in mind

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	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 01:40 pm UTC (link)
	I've been trying to keep that in mind. Doesn't change the fact that my mind also likes to point out that I'm the easily replaceable one. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	feelingepic 2014-11-25 01:42 pm UTC (link)
	Okaaayyy you do know he's actually 100% crazy about you right? You've noticed this (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	magicdestroys 2014-11-25 01:34 pm UTC (link)
	You're allowed to be hurt by it. It's understandable. It always gets more complicated as soon as kids get involved. Just don't let the hurt overwhelm you. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 01:41 pm UTC (link)
	And its a good thing that she's involved. It's a miracle. I just don't want to show how hurt I am and its getting more difficult to not do that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	magicdestroys 2014-11-25 01:44 pm UTC (link)
	Well, maybe you shouldn't hide it. Communication is usually a good thing in a relationship. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	notanazi 2014-11-25 01:39 pm UTC (link)
	What the hell do I say to I have NO idea how any of this You need to find a place for it. For all of that. Only way to get by until you find your way to cope with it. Compartmentalize. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 01:42 pm UTC (link)
	I tried that. Didn't work. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notanazi 2014-11-25 01:43 pm UTC (link)
	Then I don't know. I'm sorry I wish I did. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	wontthinktwice 2014-11-25 01:40 pm UTC (link)
	It's not selfish, but it does suck. I wish I knew what to tell you, Care, but I've never been in that position, so...I'm here, at least, if you need anything. Have you talked to him about it? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 01:43 pm UTC (link)
	I don't really know what I need, but thanks Vicki. No. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	wontthinktwice 2014-11-25 01:45 pm UTC (link)
	Maybe you should? But don't take my word for it. I'm crap at relationships. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	youliedtome 2014-11-25 01:40 pm UTC (link)
	~~You can talk to your best friends about i~~ Mimosas. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 01:43 pm UTC (link)
	So many. But not until Friday. Too many things to do to get ready for Thursday. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	youliedtome 2014-11-25 03:06 pm UTC (link)
	But that's good, right? That's something to focus on. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	everymansdream 2014-11-25 02:04 pm UTC (link)
	I know we don't really know each other but I've sort of been where you are. It never stops hurting, but with time it hurts a little less and eventually it'll fade to a dull ache. And you're allowed to feel selfish. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 05:49 pm UTC (link)
	I don't want to feel selfish. I'm not that girl anymore. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	everymansdream 2014-11-25 05:51 pm UTC (link)
	Selfishness isn't necessarily a bad thing. You have to take care of yourself, first. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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lildampeer
2014-11-25 06:33 pm UTC (link)

I know it's not what you want to hear, but you can't. You can't make it not hurt. You can force a smile and tell yourself you're happy for him. You might even convince yourself you are, but it's always gonna hurt.

The only advice I can give is to try and focus on the fact that you're the one he's with. Enjoy every moment you have with him, because you never know when it's all going to get ripped away.

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	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 06:37 pm UTC (link)
	It got really hard to do that all of the sudden. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	vagueambition 2014-11-25 09:00 pm UTC (link)
	You can't just make hurt stop. It doesn't work that way. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	agelessbeauty 2014-11-25 10:20 pm UTC (link)
	But I'd really like it to. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	vagueambition 2014-11-26 03:38 am UTC (link)
	Considering what's caused it I guess that's up to you. In my experience it's not that simple. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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Caroline

plusone
2014-11-26 12:33 am UTC (link)

See, the thing with loving someone who's been around as long as he has is, there's history. And the fact that his life continues on without you in another time is difficult too.

But the important part is this him in this time? Loves you more than anything. What you do is step up. Be a stepmother to Hope and be a damn good one. Help him to find that balance to work things out with the baby's mum so that the baby is what matters the most. And, most of all, just love him. You do it well.

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	Rose agelessbeauty 2014-11-26 01:18 am UTC (link)
	I want to do all of that. I invited her to Thanksgiving. I helped with creating the nursery at our home. I encourage him to do things with Hope. It doesn't help the hurt go away though. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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