Holy wow ...its no ones fault which makes it a million times more messed up and Its not selifish But
I wish I knew what to tell you. I honestly do. I've tried to blame Klaus, tried to blame the wolf girl, all of it.
But its circumstance. Its cruel, its unfair.
I guess you need to think about the fact that he does love you. I mean, Klaus freaking Mikaelson? He smiles when he's around you, he's much much less psychotic in general. Its clear the effect you have on him.
And yes. He loves that little girl. And Hayley will always be a part of that. But its you he's with. Its you he loves. You need to basically keep that in mind