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Tweak says, "It's been ten years..."

00.06 Ben Hargreeves (undeadhorror) wrote in somerealityweb,
@ 2019-12-15 16:52:00

Entry tags:

active: five hargreeves, active: hugo weasley, active: tony stark

So. Does someone want to do something tonight?

[Five, Klaus, Darcy, Tony & Cisco]
I'm really bad at fitting in with people. You guys are really good with people... so what can I do to be better at people?

I just feel like I get really weird and awkward with people and I talk to a few people my age but I just.... kinda feel like I'm on the outskirts of everything.

[Vanya]

Sooo. I need to talk to you. Sort of. About Girl stuff.

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	Tony \| Ben notyourplayboy 2019-12-15 10:20 pm UTC (link)
	It took me 40+ years, kid, but I can try. What's going on? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Tony \| Ben undeadhorror 2019-12-15 10:36 pm UTC (link)
	Nothing in particular. I have friends who I like to talk to. I just feel on the outside, and I want to be on the inside. You know? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Tony \| Ben notyourplayboy 2019-12-15 10:38 pm UTC (link)
	I do know actually. Rhodey was the first person I ever felt really got me. Pitfalls of a high IQ and poor little rich boy syndrome. But, seriously? It is cliche as shit, but be yourself and the right people will find you. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Tony \| Ben undeadhorror 2019-12-15 10:46 pm UTC (link)
	The only people I've ever been allowed to "socialize" with was my siblings. And that was limited to about thirty minutes a day, and usually in between training or missions or press meets. There is a high chance that whoever "myself" is just plain sucks at socializing. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	hereishugo 2019-12-15 10:23 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah, sure. Food? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	undeadhorror 2019-12-15 10:36 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah. Okay. Though I'm a little over Cajun food. Pizza? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	hereishugo 2019-12-15 10:38 pm UTC (link)
	Pizza it is. I'm Hugo. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	undeadhorror 2019-12-15 10:45 pm UTC (link)
	Oh good. That was easy. I'm Ben. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	Cisco \| Ben onlygoodvibes 2019-12-15 10:51 pm UTC (link)
	Fitting in is complicated, but um..I guess try to find people with similar interests? I still struggle sometimes. [ooc: A delay on Cisco's part, hes distracted today ;D It doesn't show up until much later] (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Cisco \| Ben undeadhorror 2019-12-15 10:58 pm UTC (link)
	Thanks man. I'm just still learning what my interests are. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Cisco \| Ben onlygoodvibes 2019-12-16 01:50 am UTC (link)
	Of course. What kind of stuff do you like so far? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Cisco \| Ben undeadhorror 2019-12-21 03:58 am UTC (link)
	Oh uh. Photography has been pretty cool. And I've always enjoyed reading. Movies are cool. And the ocean. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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First Filter

halflistening
2019-12-15 11:04 pm UTC (link)

Peopling is tough. Like, sometimes even for people who seem good at it. The best advice I can give you is to let your freak flag fly. Everyone is weird in some way. Embrace who you are. Find people who like that about you and stick with them.

Aldo, try not to be too hard on yourself. Not everyone figures themselves out as a teenager. Hell, most people don't. You saw me as a teenager- I was confident af on the outside, but it was all a facade to keep from being bullied for being too loud, too obnoxious, too busty, too smart. I was bullied so bad in high school and I didnt want to be that way here. It took until college for me to really feel that confidence I faked.

You have a lot going for you, Ben. You're smart, you're caring, you're a good person. If you put yourself out there and let people see all those great things about you, they will come running.

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	Re: First Filter jumps 2019-12-15 11:10 pm UTC (link)
	You know, Boobs, I'd have broken some noses for you if we'd been teens together outside of this place. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	First Filter halflistening 2019-12-15 11:12 pm UTC (link)
	That's because you're good people. And the people I went to high school with were assholes. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	First Filter undeadhorror 2019-12-16 01:23 am UTC (link)
	I'm weird and quiet though. Not like quirky and cool weird. It's not like I have a choice to not be a teenager! But high school isn't bad or anything. I'm alright, I guess. I just feel like no one really notices me I guess. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	First Filter halflistening 2019-12-16 02:02 am UTC (link)
	Weird is in the eye of the beholder. I think you're cool weird. I'm glad your high school experience is different from mine. Maybe people are noticing you and you're just not noticing them noticing you. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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jumps
2019-12-15 11:05 pm UTC (link)

Want to know a secret? Lots of us experience that. Including me.

I think it's a lot of trial and error. You have to, at least to a point, put yourself out there. You have to reach out and try to talk to people. Maybe try a few times with some people because not everyone immediately clicks. And if you don't find you click with some people, that's okay. I think it comes down to being willing to say hi and willing to try to talk to people. Even something random like complimenting someone on an outfit or asking for help or saying you enjoy a book they're reading or something.

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	Ben \| Five undeadhorror 2019-12-15 11:53 pm UTC (link)
	Everyone notices you, Five. Okay. Yeah. I'm trying. It's just hard. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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jumps
2019-12-16 12:23 am UTC (link)

~~Noticing and liking aren't the same.~~

What can I say? When I want attention, I ensure I get it. Sometimes you got to speak up. Or stab a table.

It is. And it's okay. You don't have to do more than you're comfortable with. Small steps outside your comfort zone are still steps. You could try making little goals for yourself. "Today I'll say hi to someone new." "Today I'll compliment three random people on something they're wearing." "Today when I get coffee, I'll ask the barista how her day's going."

Additionally, asking questions can be helpful. Especially questions that require more than a "yes" or "no" answer. They keep the conversation going, and you get to know about the other person or people, and you can contribute with your own input if it's something you know. And taking a class outside of school could be good, too. You're enjoying photography. I bet we could find a photography class outside of school or a club, or you could even start a photography club to meet others. Or a book club (which I tried, but it fell apart before it started). Or a movie club to watch and discuss movies. Or anything else that interests you. That way, if nothing else, you're going in with people who have at least one thing in common with you. So it's a start.

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	Vanya \| Ben aloneinacrowd 2019-12-16 12:43 am UTC (link)
	You can talk to me about anything, Ben. What can I help you with? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Vanya \| Ben undeadhorror 2019-12-16 01:12 am UTC (link)
	I think I like a girl, and I need to not like her. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Vanya \| Ben aloneinacrowd 2019-12-16 01:17 am UTC (link)
	Why do you need to not like her? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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	spotson 2019-12-16 02:08 am UTC (link)
	What sort of something were you thinking of? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	undeadhorror 2019-12-19 12:18 am UTC (link)
	I don't know. Hugo and I are getting food? (Reply to this) (Parent)