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MarinaNova NPCs (marinanova_npc) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2017-05-08 11:56:00

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:jaden, :mary wesson, :mingle, aidan reilly, alex karev, ianto jones, jack harkness, james howlett/logan, keith, malcolm reynolds, martha jones, nico di angelo, peter parker (stnas), pidge, prompto argentum, sara lance, sarah williams, spencer reid, spike, wade wilson

427 - Group Therapy Mingle

THERAPY GROUPS
More linked as they come up!

Turning a New Leaf
Polyamorous Individuals
PTSD and You
Murderers Anonymous
Addicts Anonymous
Counting Days - Managing Life with a Chronic Illness
Phobias and You
Impostor Syndrome
Abandonment Issues

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	aftersmith 2017-05-11 05:44 pm UTC (link)
	If you don't mind. [He'll hear out your feelings on anything.] I'd be interested in learning your thoughts on the matter, to better... understand. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

readystopwatch
2017-05-11 07:55 pm UTC (link)

[Why does he keep ending up as teachers pet? Because he's really regretting it right now. Awkward is an understatement for how he's feeling just now.]

I suppose I'd say it's not a situation I ever expected to find myself in. I love the two men in in a relationship with and they will always make all the difficulties associated with it feel worth it but I don't know that I can say I have thoughts on the matter besides that. It's hard to look outside my own relationships which something as complicated as this.

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aftersmith
2017-05-11 08:56 pm UTC (link)

It's quite interesting to me, seeing divergence from the norm. With humans tending to opt for monogamous relationships, whether in short or long term, it's a curious sight to see some choose to... plainly speaking, to share? Instead. [He's not kidding, he finds this fascinating.]

With physical intimacy a core necessity for many, it makes more sense from an observer's point of view. Yet the intricacy of relationships and chosen mates, for life or otherwise, presents a separate reasoning - feeding other needs such as giving oneself validation and importance by linking with just one other person at a time. Limiting, yet... fulfilling? [His brow creases - he's still really trying to understand it.]

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readystopwatch
2017-05-12 01:27 am UTC (link)

[You are lucky he's so polite because it's the only reason he's putting up with this conversation with a stranger. He does pull an extremely dry smile at that reply though.]

I assure you choosing has nothing to do with it. If I could choose who I loved my life would have been a great deal happier on more than one occasion. As it is it just happens. I cheated on someone I loved with Jack and what I have here started out the same way. Everything you said about intricacies and reasoning tends to go out the window where feelings are concerned.

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	aftersmith 2017-05-12 03:58 am UTC (link)
	So... your shared relationship is a product of failed monogamy? [His brows shoot up quizzically.] What... defines cheating? Forgive me if asking is rude. I'm coming to learn that what I consider logical pathways of reasoning come off - insensitive - yet this is unfamiliar territory for me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

readystopwatch
2017-05-12 02:35 pm UTC (link)

I suppose you could say that, but it's not the most tactful way of phrasing it. [This reminds him of more than one conversation he's had with aliens back home. Funny in retrospect how many of them don't understand love. It's almost like a tv show.]

I became involved with him while I was still in a relationship with her and I hid it. A solution like what I have now is rare; generally you're expected to just be with one person. What I did involved lying to both of them, and it hurt everyone in the end.

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	aftersmith 2017-05-12 07:01 pm UTC (link)
	I see. [Sort of. There are still so many questions but he's holding back, thinking on a few to see if he can answer them himself with observation alone.] And now, at present, is it a more understanding solution - with less, erm... 'hurt'? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	readystopwatch 2017-05-13 02:01 am UTC (link)
	[Making him feel like he's some sort of test subject or lab rat is actually easier than taking to a therapist who cares or anything like that. He can deal with clinical, curious questions a lot better than emotions.] Sometimes. It wasn't at the beginning and we're still working things out but so far it's been worth the pain. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	aftersmith 2017-05-13 03:34 am UTC (link)
	I see. [He repeats, thinking over what Ianto's said.] Has the loosening of restrictions here helped? I take it that the previous banding system for sexual activity must have imposed on poly-amorous individuals. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	readystopwatch 2017-05-13 05:29 pm UTC (link)
	I don't think they've been gone long enough to say. I think the reaction will entirely depend on the person. Some people might take advantage of it but I doubt I will. I'm happy with what I have. I don't need anyone else. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	aftersmith 2017-05-21 03:44 am UTC (link)
	I see. [Mostly. Maybe. But okay.] It's been a pleasure speaking with you, Mr. Jones. I would take the assumption you have more experience than most with dealing with non-earth native species, but I've been informed that pre-reading profiles is a bit rude. But I thank you for having an open dialog... we want to understand you just as much as you want to understand us. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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