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Tear Grants ([info]mysterymelody) wrote in [info]marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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Entry tags::mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
 [The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

  • Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
  • Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
  • Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
  • Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
  • What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."


[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-27 05:58 pm UTC (link)
[ Remember how they're all truth'd up? Yeah. Keep that in mind for what he's about to say next. ]

Kitty... I wouldn't. Even if they gave me that choice, I wouldn't go. Not without you.

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-10-27 06:00 pm UTC (link)
[She could spend her time here doubting him—since she doesn't realize there is a truth issue just yet—and she does doubt him a bit, but more than that she wants to believe him.] What about your life?

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-27 06:13 pm UTC (link)
My life? You mean the life that you're a huge part of? Possibly the biggest part? [ Quietly. ] You really think I could just leave that behind..?

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-10-27 06:21 pm UTC (link)
[Are they holding hands? They need to be holding hands so she can give his a squeeze.] Reid...

[She shakes her head and believes him.] I didn't expect to find you.

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-27 06:39 pm UTC (link)
[ Do they ever stop holding hands? They shouldn't. ] I didn't expect to find you either.

...But I'm really glad I did.

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-10-27 06:41 pm UTC (link)
Me too. I was kind of lost. [Who helped who back then?]

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-27 06:44 pm UTC (link)
I know... I could tell. [ Guess why he was so adamant about talking to her about Tyki? ]

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-10-27 07:33 pm UTC (link)
So you were just humoring me in my introduction to prison life so you could watch out for me?

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-27 07:51 pm UTC (link)
No, of course not. I really don't know what I would've done without you.

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-10-27 07:59 pm UTC (link)
I guess that goes both ways for us. [Little smile.]

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-28 05:52 am UTC (link)
[ And because he really can't resist. ] At least I knew that I needed help from the start.

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-10-30 01:18 am UTC (link)
Hey! I was handling it.

...I just liked handling it better with you.

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-30 04:05 pm UTC (link)
And for that I'm forever grateful. [ Can he give her a kiss? A little peck on the forehead? ]

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-10-30 11:46 pm UTC (link)
[He is so cleared for kissing on any part of her face he wants to go for.] No regrets?

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-10-31 04:52 pm UTC (link)
[ Forehead it is, for now. ] Not a single one.

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-11-03 12:27 am UTC (link)
You know I love you, right?

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-11-03 05:28 am UTC (link)
I do. [ Oh wait. ] I do know... and I hope you know I love you too?

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-11-07 12:13 pm UTC (link)
I do. [Well, now that the I dos are out of the way...] It's hard to miss.

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-11-07 12:55 pm UTC (link)
That obvious, huh? [ May he kiss the... girlfriend? Is that okay? A proper one? ]

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-11-07 01:17 pm UTC (link)
[If he doesn't, he's just going to get kissed instead. Soft on the lips though. She's not here to make out in front of everyone else.] The good kind of obvious.

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-11-07 04:47 pm UTC (link)
[ Soft on the lips is exactly right. They don't need to bare any more of themselves than they have. He will however end it with a gentle little nuzzle, because he can't help himself. ]

This round of therapy wasn't nearly as bad as the last one.

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-11-07 04:51 pm UTC (link)
Definitely. I barely liked any of the guys I kissed last time.

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[info]thisiscalm
2013-11-07 05:04 pm UTC (link)
Hey. [ Sternly. So sternly it's pretty clear he's not all that serious about it. ]

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[info]kitty_has_claws
2013-11-07 05:10 pm UTC (link)
[She leans in for the tiniest head bump.] Cutie.

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