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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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trappedinresin
2013-10-20 12:20 pm UTC (link)

[To be honest, she's never had someone to talk to about anything. It isn't like she can tell Kaname, when he's the source of her current problems. And she can't really speak to Zero when he hates that person so much.

And they're more recently recovering.

With another weak smile she squeezes his hand in return. Something to hold onto.]

I don't know about that. [Being a good person.] But thank you. [A little embarrassed after everything she glances up at him and nods.]

I appreciate it.

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	thisiscalm 2013-10-20 12:27 pm UTC (link)
	The offer isn't going anywhere. We have to look after each other around here, right? [ Something he had back home, only then it was confined to his team. The longer he's here, the more he realizes how widely spread that sense of family is becoming. As frightening and heart-breaking as that can be, he really wouldn't want it any other way. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

trappedinresin
2013-10-20 12:37 pm UTC (link)

You too.

[It goes both ways. Yuuki has her fair share of problems. More... than just a little. But at the very least she's a good listener. It's easier for her to comfort than be the one to admit she might have any sort of problems at all.]

If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here. [Her smile widens just a little, while she continues to clear her eyes.]

After helping me with the concert, I really owe you.

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	thisiscalm 2013-10-20 01:03 pm UTC (link)
	[ Peas in a pod over here, if only on this particular thing. ] Don't mention it, it was fun! Thank you for giving me the chance. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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