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Tweak says, "B-A-N-A-N-A-S!"

Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 09:46 pm UTC (link)
	I thought he enjoyed that kind of thing. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 09:48 pm UTC (link)
	[ A shrug. ] It can only escalate so far before it gets boring, I guess. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 09:55 pm UTC (link)
	Because two of us would be dead. [She doesn't say which two.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-06 06:12 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah. [ Heavy. ] There's not much of a game when the mice are dead. In any case, I prefer this outcome. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-06 06:21 pm UTC (link)
	[Well, we all know who the cat is.] Me too. Not sure how long it will last, but it's...better. You're cuter not in peril. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-07 07:38 am UTC (link)
	[ He cocks his head to the side, eyes narrowed in thought. ] You've never seen me in peril, have you? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-09 12:12 am UTC (link)
	Not immanent peril. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-09 08:23 pm UTC (link)
	Then that's not really a call you can make, is it? [ Not sure if teasing or just arguing a moot point. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-12 02:09 am UTC (link)
	Should I ask Tyki if your cuteness varies? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-12 05:06 pm UTC (link)
	...I think you already know how he would respond. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-14 06:59 pm UTC (link)
	Snidely I'd guess. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-15 07:54 pm UTC (link)
	Some things will never change, I guess. Actually, I'd bet my bottom dollar on that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-18 01:23 am UTC (link)
	Careful, those aren't worth as much here what with no system of currency. You'll have to update your phrasing. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-18 01:35 pm UTC (link)
	I'm sure it has some collector's value at the very least... there's a lot less of them around here than back home. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-18 05:55 pm UTC (link)
	Allen did try to collect a lot of it once. Weird guy. I miss him. [That bit is the truth stuff talking.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-18 06:01 pm UTC (link)
	I wish I'd known... I could've given him some quarters. [ Little smile. ] Actually... most of all I wish I'd had more of a chance to get to know him. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-18 06:08 pm UTC (link)
	I like that thought. You getting to know my friends. You know, friends who aren't Tyki. [You're so sweet.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-18 06:16 pm UTC (link)
	You've introduced me to a lot more people than him, you know. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-18 07:27 pm UTC (link)
	Who's your favorite? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-20 11:31 am UTC (link)
	Well, since I met Rebecca on my own... [ Thoughtful hum. Wow, he actually met a lot of these people on his own. She just helped making it into more than a one-time thing. ] I don't know about favorite, but Lelouch was... interesting. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-21 01:24 am UTC (link)
	You know, I think interesting is a good word for that guy. I wouldn't exactly call him a friend. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-21 03:27 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah, he's uh... he's something. I was surprised that you sent him my way. Not that it was a bad thing, of course. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-21 03:36 pm UTC (link)
	I thought you might appreciate a genius chess player. I only knew him before. He doesn't have memories of any of that so I can't even really say for sure he's the same guy I knew then. He was close to Suzaku though. [And she has loyalty to him.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-21 03:53 pm UTC (link)
	[ Nodding ] We haven't played yet, but he's pretty good on the piano. Very, uhm... emotional. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-21 03:56 pm UTC (link)
	Emotional? Did something weird happen? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)