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Tweak says, "it's Ianto Jones' fault"

Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-04 02:03 pm UTC (link)
	Good, or we'd have a problem. [She tips her head enough to kiss his cheek before pulling back again.] And I do bad things with sharp claws to problems. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-04 06:55 pm UTC (link)
	[ Such a sweet girlfriend. He gives her a squeeze over the shoulders. ] I don't even think you need the claws to do bad things. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-04 06:58 pm UTC (link)
	You're biased. [Smiles like it was a compliment. Maybe it was. Speaking of bad things. Can you smell that alcohol on her?] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-04 07:02 pm UTC (link)
	Nuh-uh. [ Let's say it's a compliment. It's easier that way. He does smell the alcohol on her, nose wrinkled slightly and eyes narrowing as he looks her over. ] Have you been drinking? [ Not judging. Just asking. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-04 07:07 pm UTC (link)
	Um, yeah, [She tucks some of her hair back.] Tyki brought a flask to my first session. [Is it still the best policy?] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 05:35 pm UTC (link)
	[ Whoa. Brows raising. He's not too upset over her drinking with Tyki, but that's entirely because he's worried about whether or not she's picked up on their little... deal. ] You've been drinking with Tyki. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 05:40 pm UTC (link)
	...I have. [And this is the guilt she'd be feeling.] We played some I never. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 07:04 pm UTC (link)
	How, uhm. [ Wow. So many conflicting feelings here, all negative. ] How did that go? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 07:17 pm UTC (link)
	It was...kind of nice. [Probably the wrong thing to say here. Honesty, what are you doing?] More relaxed. [Like things used to be, but without the flirting.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 07:30 pm UTC (link)
	[ Definitely conflicting and he's not lying with the response. ] That's... good. It's been a while since... you know. All that. It's good that you can talk. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 07:38 pm UTC (link)
	Why are you the best guy? [No, really, how are you even thisgreat right now? She has to squeeze his hand, so she does.] He's probably already working on making me regret it. Or already did and I just haven't found out yet. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 07:49 pm UTC (link)
	I wouldn't be so sure of that. [ Oh, hello honesty. He didn't mean to say that. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 07:55 pm UTC (link)
	Why not? [She assumes she means Tyki is playing nice and yet, that seems so unlikely.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 08:31 pm UTC (link)
	I, uh... I talked to him the other day. [ Clears his throat. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 08:33 pm UTC (link)
	And you're still in one piece? No weird butterflies inside you? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 08:38 pm UTC (link)
	No no... nothing like that. I'm fine. [ A beat. ] Actually, I think we've buried the hatchet. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 08:40 pm UTC (link)
	Are you sure the hatchet isn't in someone? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 08:45 pm UTC (link)
	Pretty sure. As sure as I can be with him. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 09:41 pm UTC (link)
	I guess coming from a profiler, that's something at least. So...you're really okay with him? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 09:44 pm UTC (link)
	[ Breath full of relief. ] I think so... we shook hands and everything. It, uh... the whole thing got blown out of proportion. I think he realized that too. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 09:46 pm UTC (link)
	I thought he enjoyed that kind of thing. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 09:48 pm UTC (link)
	[ A shrug. ] It can only escalate so far before it gets boring, I guess. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-05 09:55 pm UTC (link)
	Because two of us would be dead. [She doesn't say which two.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-06 06:12 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah. [ Heavy. ] There's not much of a game when the mice are dead. In any case, I prefer this outcome. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-06 06:21 pm UTC (link)
	[Well, we all know who the cat is.] Me too. Not sure how long it will last, but it's...better. You're cuter not in peril. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)