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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 12:22 am UTC (link)
	[A fleeting smile.] Getting anything out of the class? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-23 12:25 am UTC (link)
	Sure. I'm getting that the wardens like to pick on our weak spots to see if we give. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 12:28 am UTC (link)
	Yeah. Sure are helpful, aren't they. Real caring wardens. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-23 12:43 am UTC (link)
	Their morning announcements are like a warm hug. So...you're not enjoying this group, huh? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 12:54 am UTC (link)
	What gave it away...? [A sigh. She picks up her pen to doodle idly (only a mere circle, as a small distraction).] . . . I just think the questions make it sound worse than it is. [Denial over so many of them.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-25 12:45 am UTC (link)
	Something very subtle probably. I'm part profiler. [Or it was the crying and scratching and general obviousness.] So, are you going to let some questions take you down? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-25 09:56 am UTC (link)
	Of course not... [Even though she's clearly depressed] It just reminded me of a few things at home. I shouldn't think about it too deeply. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-29 05:20 pm UTC (link)
	Why? Because then you would be obviously sad about it during a mandatory group meeting? That ship might have already sailed away. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

trappedinresin
2013-09-29 05:43 pm UTC (link)

I don't want to lose anyone. That doesn't mean I need a class about it.

[Which she feels most in here probably feel the same way. Maybe she's a bit too adamant about it, though.]

There's no reason to think about it any longer. What do they want me to do? Talk about how it felt not having been enough for someone and left behind after already leaving everything for that person? Or how my best friend turned on me when they realized I wasn't human? [A humorless laugh] Yeah... real good idea. I'd rather not focus on those things. I don't know about everyone else here, but I'm doing fine.

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	kitty_has_claws 2013-09-30 01:27 am UTC (link)
	[Being turned on or treated differently for not being human? That could not resonate more strongly with Kitty and it shows almost immediately in her expression.] It's hard to fix what's someone else's problem. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-10-02 05:12 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah, tell me about it. [A sigh.] Doesn't make it hurt less, though. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-06 05:51 pm UTC (link)
	Only you can make it hurt less. [Or force it down where you don't have to deal with it.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-10-08 05:33 pm UTC (link)
	Right... [Easier said than done.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	kitty_has_claws 2013-10-09 12:12 am UTC (link)
	Yeah... They need new games here. [Like not messing with their emotions. What's wrong with table tennis?] (Reply to this) (Parent)

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