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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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sadistfaction
2013-09-23 12:18 am UTC (link)

Literally because of Lacus.

[He puts a hand to his chin as he begins to explain.]

I signed up and was initially rejected, because everyone hates me. There was a day when some freaky stuff happened and got everyone confessing their entire life story, and Lacus heard my story and had a change of heart. So she spoke with Suzaku and I was reconsidered, so here I am. [He shrugs.] Kitty seems like a little more of a hardass, so, like I said, there's probably someone keeping tabs on me.

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	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 12:20 am UTC (link)
	That's not what I mean, though. [She shakes her head] It's just... you made it sound like you don't like work or what you do. If that's the case, though, then why did you apply at all? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

sadistfaction
2013-09-23 12:31 am UTC (link)

Oh. [He rubs his cheek.]

I was a cop back home, so... familiarity, I guess. I'm no good at a lot of things, but I was always the best at combat... Not so much here, which kind of pisses me off, but since not everyone's a human, it makes sense...

[He stops himself from getting off track]

I also don't feel good about a lot of things, but... I guess helping people makes me feel good. I don't have family anymore, and other people shouldn't lose theirs. I got to bring families back together back home. Help find the guardian of lost kids. Stuff like that.

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	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 09:12 pm UTC (link)
	Some of the strongest people I know are human. [Her adoptive father, Yori... the list can go on. His reasons are obviously well intentioned.] If you ever want to spar against someone who is not, for practice, I'm open to it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-23 09:29 pm UTC (link)
	[He raises a brow.] Spar with you? You don't know what you're getting yourself into. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 09:40 pm UTC (link)
	[It's easier focusing on this, so she takes on a playful haughty and confident air.] Despite my height, I'm quite the force to be reckoned with. I'll even play gentle. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-23 09:43 pm UTC (link)
	[Well, he does know someone who's smaller and younger than her who puts up a good fight, sooo perhaps... He smirks!] I guess you're just gonna have to prove it to me then, huh? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 09:51 pm UTC (link)
	Peace of cake. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-23 10:07 pm UTC (link)
	We'll see. [Nods, and a hint of a smile.] Hey, thanks. You know. For bein' nice. I can't guarantee I won't be an asshole to you tomorrow, though. Just so you know. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 10:15 pm UTC (link)
	At least that's honest, I suppose. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-23 10:19 pm UTC (link)
	[He gives her a "v"!] No problem. [Yes, he's just going to pretend she was thankful for his honesty.] (Reply to this) (Parent)

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