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Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

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:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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neverhurthim
2013-09-22 01:52 pm UTC (link)

[She's not terribly surprised to hear about Matt's mom's lack of parenting ability. In that way, Anna considered herself incredibly lucky. Despite being vampires, they'd always been very close, and her mother had never willingly left her behind. She listens to Matt, keeping her eyes focused on his face as he speaks. She contemplates for a moment the benefits and drawbacks of revealing who she is to him, and looks down at her coffee cup for a moment, then takes another sip. He'll probably dislike her, like most of the people from Mystic Falls do, but he'll find out one way or another if she isn't honest anyway.]

I assume you mean the drugs and alcohol thing. Because the vampire part -- that wasn't her fault. [No, Anna knew that burden lay solely with Damon Salvatore, whether he felt guilt over it or not.]

[She waits for his reaction to her knowing that about his sister.]

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stuck
2013-09-22 05:00 pm UTC (link)

[ matt looks up, startled. he hasn't said a word to anyone about vicki having been a vampire, yet this girl knows -- and she knows it wasn't vicki's fault, either. it was the drugs and alcohol that led vicki to damon, but damon's impulsive nature that led to vicki becoming a vampire. vicki's addictive nature was amplified by the vampirism and she became a hostile, unpredictable force. he's still bitter about the fact that stefan had been so quick to stake his sister when they did everything to save others who became vampires, to help them get control over their new lives. vicki never had a chance. ]

Partly. How the hell do you even know?

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neverhurthim
2013-09-22 05:07 pm UTC (link)

[Anna pursed her lips, watching him for a long moment before leaning forward just a little. She's probably done more than startle him -- he's likely upset and she doesn't really blame him. He doesn't know her at all.]

I'm Anna. [She hesitates now, looking down before meeting his eyes.]

I sort of know you. I was on the Other Side and you were around Jeremy a lot. [She's pretty sure that's enough for him to realize who she is now.]

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	stuck 2013-09-22 05:26 pm UTC (link)
	You're Anna. [ his lips form a small "o" as the realization hits him. this was anna, this was the other girl that jeremy had been seeing besides his sister. this was the vampire girl he was involved with after vicki died, the one his uncle john staked. matt's been told some about her, but most of it is a mystery. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	neverhurthim 2013-09-22 05:32 pm UTC (link)
	[She nods a little, knowing he probably has a lot of questions.] Yeah. I am. [Anna's not used to feeling nervous, but she can't help it right then and she doesn't like it. She reaches up and tucks some hair behind her ear.] I'm sorry. About Vicki. [And she really means that.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

stuck
2013-09-22 05:37 pm UTC (link)

It's not your fault. Any of it. The vampire thing or the ghost thing. She was-- She was just misguided and selfish. She wanted things for good reasons, but didn't really get that she'd be seriously screwing people over in the process.

[ "i'm fucked up and i fuck people over in the process: the vicki donovan story." ]

Thanks. For trying to warn us about that, and I'm sorry for the part I played in all of that, too.

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neverhurthim
2013-09-22 05:45 pm UTC (link)

[She's caught off guard by both his reassurance that it wasn't her fault and for his gratitude. She isn't used to that kind of reaction from people -- especially not ones from Mystic Falls.]

She was really young. [Even though Anna didn't particularly like the idea of Vicki, she also didn't blame the girl for the things she'd done. Matt was right. She'd been misguided. And considering how lonely she herself had been on the Other Side, she understood why Vicki had been desperate.]

It isn't your fault either. She's your sister. Of course you wanted to see her and help her.

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