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Tweak says, "I'm eloping you to canada"

Tear Grants (mysterymelody) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-18 18:35:00

Entry tags:

:mingle, annabelle, buffy summers, hei, hikaru hitachiin, kitty pryde (aoa), matt donovan, sougo okita, spencer reid, tear grants, toul, yuuki kuran

[Day 237] Fear of Abandonment Therapy mingle
[The call to those placed in abandonment therapy simply says to head to the Sector 5 prayer facility, and that's all-- not even that this has to do with those insecure feelings of yours. Posted arrows point the way down to the meditation room that has been filled up with several tables, two completely lined with coffees, teas, and bite sized refreshments ranging from cookies and pastries to sliced fruit and veggies. Plates and napkins are stacked up, and if you want a fork, they're there too.

The third table is larger and round, for that feeling of closeness, with chairs set up and for each seat a set of papers is waiting neatly on the table surface along with a pen. Topmost is a questionnaire with instructions to put detailed responses, be honest, and discuss with another attendee, with questions such as:

Do you get anxious if you cannot see or speak to someone close to you at any given moment?
Are you constantly haunted by the idea that someone may eventually leave you?
Do you put up with negative or even abusive behavior from someone just to keep from being alone?
Did someone important to you exit your life when you were young? How did you feel?
What exactly are you afraid of, beyond the indistinct label of "being abandoned"?

The second is a page with the heading "Make a list of all the people in your life, and determine how devastated you would be if those people left and why. Try to cut the unhealthy relationships, and distance a bit from even the good to build your independence!" and a few extra blank sheets of paper in case the one isn't enough.

Small cards are also scattered in the center of the table, printed with positive tips to help the process of healing.

"Often when people are abandoned (whether because someone leaves or even dies), they feel utterly hopeless and helpless. But you are never helpless.

Nothing lasts forever, so enjoy where you're at and whom you're with.

Abandonment issues aren't always easy to recognize, but can be worked through in a loving relationship.

Try to challenge yourself to be alone for extended periods of time without giving into the urge to reach out immediately and connect to someone."

[[ooc: mingle! you know how it goes by now, use these examples or come up with better ones if you want!]]

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	thisiscalm 2013-09-20 05:10 pm UTC (link)
	That's what I thought. [ A nod. ] Monozygotic twins have the exact same genetic setup. It's not uncommon that they share a different bond... like a sixth sense. Being without your brother must be really hard. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-20 06:58 pm UTC (link)
	Exactly! [Ugh! Hearing that makes it that much more painful!] It is! It really is! It's hard acting like I'm okay without him all the time, but I'm not! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-23 11:29 am UTC (link)
	I'm sorry. [ Although, this is really interesting. ] Do you still feel a connection with him? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-23 11:37 am UTC (link)
	It's... [He tries to think of a way to describe it.] It's there, but empty... Like something is missing. For obvious reasons. I don't feel completely me without him. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-23 12:16 pm UTC (link)
	[ Nodding. ] We had a case several years ago where one twin was kidnapped and the one left behind could instinctually know that the other one was alright, so I uh... I kind of get what you're going through. At least a little. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-23 01:17 pm UTC (link)
	That's the worst story I've ever heard! This is the most intense heartache I've ever experienced! [He doesn't even know those twins, but he feels so sad for them!] I may need an extra session just to get over hearing about it! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-24 01:06 pm UTC (link)
	[ Whoa. Some people have thin skin. He didn't even get into the grisly details! ] Sorry... I didn't mean to upset you. If it's any help, they both came out of it just fine. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-24 07:16 pm UTC (link)
	[And now he feels so much better! It brings a tear to his eye!] Aah! I'm so glad they had a happy ending! I was so worried it was going to end in... something far worse! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-25 04:28 pm UTC (link)
	They were very lucky. [ And that's where we end this, because it could get so gruesome if he runs his mouth. ] Do you have a support system here? I know it's not the same, but it's just as important. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-25 07:58 pm UTC (link)
	[hikaru nods.] I do! I live with my best friends! They're the greatest. I really don't know what I'd do without them... other than be completely terrible to people. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-26 05:34 pm UTC (link)
	That's good! Anyone I know? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-26 10:16 pm UTC (link)
	[Good question! He holds out three fingers.] It's possible! There's three of them, and they have been around a long time, one of them without her memories of first being here, but it still counts as her having been here a long time, if you ask me! [He grins!] My roommates are Yuuri Shibuya, Zero Kiryuu, and Yuuki Kuran! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-27 06:00 pm UTC (link)
	Oh yeah, I know all three of them. Especially Yuuki — actually, uhm... I helped her with a punishment not long ago. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-09-27 11:38 pm UTC (link)
	[Oh, was it that punishment, he wonders.] I'm sorry for her behavior. She's not always... like that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-09-30 05:49 pm UTC (link)
	Her behavior? What, uhm... what do you mean? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-10-01 12:00 am UTC (link)
	You know. [He looks around and whispers. He can't believe he has to say it! It's way too embarrassing!] The...um, sexual stuff... she and Zero got in trouble for. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-02 05:29 pm UTC (link)
	Oh. That. [ Casual. Like he cares that much. ] No, I wasn't involved in that. [ Obviously. ] I helped her with the concert. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-10-02 08:51 pm UTC (link)
	No... I knew that, but... [Anyway! Moving on, because he would rather not talk about that!] I figured you were referring to the concert. [He nods.] Um. Thanks for helping her, I guess, even though she really ought to know better and stop getting herself in trouble all the time. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-03 04:32 pm UTC (link)
	From what she told me, that wasn't entirely her fault. [ What do you know. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-10-03 08:16 pm UTC (link)
	Maybe. I try to stay out of their business, because I don't need to get into trouble. I've been here way too long for that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-05 07:09 pm UTC (link)
	Probably a wise decision... though I suppose there are some situations that you just can't avoid. She got hurt, didn't she? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-10-05 11:58 pm UTC (link)
	I mean... she and Zero play fight with each other, but I don't think she's gotten all that hurt. We'd have to kick him out if he hurt her! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thisiscalm 2013-10-08 06:29 pm UTC (link)
	I don't think she would've been punished for getting hurt if it wasn't severe enough... would she? [ Is he causing trouble with this? ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	onelevelmeaner 2013-10-08 11:01 pm UTC (link)
	That would make sense, yes. [He rubs this neck.] But sometimes the wardens are a bit overdramatic, too. I wonder if perhaps they just caused too much of a scene. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)