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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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	matter 2013-09-16 11:01 pm UTC (link)
	[ elena's looking down at the piece of paper she drew with a measure of mirthless, dry amusement. of course she ended up back here, with this question in hand. she shrugs and just comes out with it. ] 'Are you happy?' (Reply to this) (Thread)

	lifelines 2013-09-16 11:07 pm UTC (link)
	[ she rolls her eyes at this one. ] I may have said it in a dream world, but it certainly applies to every-day life: I hate the term happy, like it's the be-all end-all of life, like if we don't achieve perfect happiness, we've somehow failed. [ does she sound bitter? no, not at all. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

matter
2013-09-22 10:12 am UTC (link)

[ The bitterness is detectable, ftr. Elena purses her lips at the answer; she's not happy. Sure, she can happy about... things, but lately that hasn't been much. ]

In my experience, it's more about pretending you are. [ That's truly her most candid answer. Sadness, depression, tragedy, it just makes people uncomfortable.

And maybe if you say you're fine enough, you can be. Elena's good at being fine. ]

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	lifelines 2013-09-24 01:03 pm UTC (link)
	[ her voice is quiet when she answers that in agreement. ] It's easier to face someone else's problems than your own, easier to make them happy than to do so yourself. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

matter
2013-09-26 09:35 am UTC (link)

[ It's true, and Elena's wont to agree so easily, even though she does. It takes her a moment of quiet contemplation - ] I guess I feel like I can be happy. After my parents and Jenna... my Uncle John.... they died, and - it was my fault. [ Tears well in her eyes. She didn't mean to say this much, but somehow she doesn't mind as much as she should. ] They died so I could live. [ She resents that, and it shows. ] My life should have ended and it didn't. [ and now it has; she's a vampire. ] I want to be happy... [ She shakes her head. She just doesn't know how, not now, not after everything. ]

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lifelines
2013-09-26 04:15 pm UTC (link)

I suppose it's one of those things we have to come to accept, that someone else would freely give of themselves for our own good.

[ her voice is soft, suggesting that she hasn't quite gotten to the acceptance stage. she's still working on it, working on understanding and dealing with ashley's death. her daughter had given her life so helen could live and every day she wonders if it could have been different. it should have been she who died that day. instead, it was her daughter, her only child. ]

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matter
2013-10-06 09:42 am UTC (link)

[ she doesn't want to accept it. she remembers fighting with stefan at the lakehouse, how she called it a disagreement that she made that deal with elijah. how rose told her she was choosing her easiest option. (and maybe she was right, and she doesn't blame stefan for wanted to save her.) it's after a moment of quiet contemplation -- of uncertainty, because it can't be about acceptance for elena, not now, not ever; she knows people will risk themselves for her, and that they die, and she'll do anything to not let that happen. ] I'm not worth all that. I don't -- want -- to be saved.

[ she looks down, as if this is a point of sadness. and it is, when she's lived through so much and lost... so many people. ] But I don't want to die either.

	tallerthanthou 2013-09-24 01:52 am UTC (link)
	[It should probably surprise him that they both just admitted that and yet he's far too relaxed to over think it.] That sounds like common ground. Maybe we should start a club and earn some points. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	tallerthanthou 2013-10-07 11:50 am UTC (link)
	[That gets a very well-deserved frown of concern out of him. He takes the seat next to her, moving and turning in it enough to be angled so he isn't quite facing her or beside her.] What happened? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)