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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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sadistfaction
2013-09-20 12:26 am UTC (link)

[He shakes his head. It just isn't that simple to him!]

And then you're going to find someone who is way cooler and more confident than I am, and you're going to forget all about me, and you're going to spend all your time with them and have no time for me and you won't even notice when I'm around. And he'll probably turn out to be a royal prince or something like that, and then you'll be a princess and have an extravagant lifestyle and do better things than sitting around watching someone feel sorry for themselves while watching stupid movies and TV shows.

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fields_of_hope
2013-09-20 08:07 pm UTC (link)

[Tugging on his hand, Lacus pulls them to a stop so that she can look at Sougo directly. If she didn't know him so well, she might assume by his words that he finds he very fickle and superficial, not at all the sort of person she knows herself to be. But she does know him.]

One day, I hope you will believe me when I tell you how much you mean to me, and that you're in no danger of being replaced by anyone.

[She stretches up to hug him.] For now, all I can do is tell you that I love you. As many times as you need to hear it.

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	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 08:43 pm UTC (link)
	[He hugs her too.] It's so much easier to deal with people hating me than it is to deal with people loving me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 08:44 pm UTC (link)
	[Her arms still around him, she pulls back enough to shoot him a smile.] I could smack you if that's what you want. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 08:50 pm UTC (link)
	[What, really?!] I dare you to smack me. [Maybe if he dares her, she will do it! Mostly just to see if she would really do it.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 08:51 pm UTC (link)
	Only if you let me take care of you afterwords, without any arguments or telling me you don't deserve it. [She drives a hard bargain!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 08:55 pm UTC (link)
	[Acts as if he has to think about it, though he doesn't have to. Like he could say no to such a request!] Hmm... I accept! Smack me! Love me! Give me everything you've got! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 09:11 pm UTC (link)
	[Lacus takes a step back and gives him one more smile before she lifts a hand and gives him a good, open-handed smack across the cheek. Not full strength, not enough to really hurt, but it should sting.] [No sooner does her hand settle than she stretches up to kiss his other cheek. She couldn't hurt him without soothing it after.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 09:38 pm UTC (link)
	[The fact that she actually did it made her so much cooler in his eyes.] Ah-- I swear, you're going to make me cry one day. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 09:41 pm UTC (link)
	I'd much rather make you smile. [She takes his hand and swings it to and fro.] Shall we continue on home? Or would you like another kiss first? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 10:01 pm UTC (link)
	[He points to his cheek and makes a kissy face. He's sure Lacus can figure that out!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-22 01:38 pm UTC (link)
	[With a little giggle, she stretches up to kiss the exact spot where his finger pointed.] Anywhere else? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-22 07:16 pm UTC (link)
	More. [Now he points to his other cheek, still with the kissy face.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-22 08:24 pm UTC (link)
	Mm, you're so direct today. [She drapes her arms around his neck and kisses that spot as well. Anticipating further requests and because she wants too, she also kisses his forehead and his nose, then takes advantage of those pursed lips.] Did I get everywhere? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-22 09:02 pm UTC (link)
	[He nods, a little embarrassed.] Mhm. You always make me feel good, you know that? [Sure she knows that. It's not like he hasn't said it before, but still!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

fields_of_hope
2013-09-22 09:15 pm UTC (link)

Then I'm happy.

[She sways a little, using her light hold on his neck as a pendulum of sorts.] And you're always a gentleman. You never try to push, not even when I sleep in your arms, or wear that kitty suit and volunteer to be handcuffed, or offer to kiss you wherever you want.

[Another little smattering of giggles, then she leans close as if she's telling a secret.] Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if you did push.

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	sadistfaction 2013-09-22 10:10 pm UTC (link)
	[There's a little laugh at that, and raises a finger.] I may be a spoiled idiot, but I still learned some values from my sister. [He winks! But then quickly he's a little more serious.] What would you do if I told you that I want to, but am actually too scared of the consequences? [He clears his throat.] This is completely hypothetical, of course. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

fields_of_hope
2013-09-22 10:21 pm UTC (link)

[That is so sweet she could just melt. After dealing with Tyki and Spike, it's refreshing to hear a man not try to force his own ideas of affection down her throat.]

Well, then... [Lacus uses her hold around his neck to reel herself closer.] I would tell you with perfect honesty that things haven't been easy for me lately, and that there are no guarantees, but that one thing you should never be scared of is losing me. And then I'd ask what you were worried about. Hypothetically.

[Were this any other day, of course they wouldn't be having this conversation, and more importantly she would be more careful with her words, hesitate before making offers that might seem premature and a little frightening in retrospect. Her words are truthful, she couldn't lie to him even if she tried, and yet things for her are nothing but complicated. She would be happy to make him happy, and of course being closer to Sougo would make her happy too. In her current state of mind, that's all that matters -- which is incredibly naive.]

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	sadistfaction 2013-09-22 10:51 pm UTC (link)
	That is what I'm scared of. Especially through no fault of your own. [He rubs his forehead.] I want to have you to myself, but... well, I'm no good with this kind of stuff, because I never get to keep everyone who's important to me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

fields_of_hope
2013-09-22 11:11 pm UTC (link)

[That he said to myself is both touching and mildly disappointing. Lacus knew that would be what he'd need of anyone close to him. Could she give it, knowing that Kira might return at any moment?]

[She can't believe Sougo would really want her to change who she is. It's just that he doesn't understand how the two ideas could exist at once.]

No wonder it bothered you to see me with Tyki. [Her smile softens and she presses her forehead to his, trying to be comforting.] I'm sorry. I didn't realize -- or, if I did, I was too afraid to let myself believe it. My heart tells me to do what might make us both very happy, and yet I've been so off-balance these last weeks I don't know whether to trust myself. I wouldn't want to lose you, either, or hurt you. Not ever.

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	sadistfaction 2013-09-23 12:13 am UTC (link)
	What does that mean? [He puts a hand on her shoulder. This is quite a predicament!] I don't trust myself, you don't trust yourself. We've got issues. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

fields_of_hope
2013-09-23 02:57 pm UTC (link)

I suppose we do. [It's a different experience for Lacus to feel a lack of confidence in herself. Still, in this situation, perhaps it's better, in a way.]

[She kisses his mouth again, though in a manner far different than a moment ago. No playful casualness, instead soft and lingering, intimate. Not a "real" kiss, but something that hints at one.]

It means that I hope you find some more confidence. [Which she knows will take time, but time is what she needs. Time to put Neil to rest and give herself permission to move on, knowing Kira would want that for her. Time to know she's forgiven herself for Tyki.]

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	sadistfaction 2013-09-23 07:52 pm UTC (link)
	[He does want to find more confidence, of course. It would probably take a long time, but despite all the negativity he had toward himself, he was sure he can get there some day, if he had help and the right motivation. That in mind, he pulls her in for a hug, and a hand cradling her head.] Will you help me? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-23 08:02 pm UTC (link)
	Of course I will. [Her answer is immediate and warm, her spirit buoyed as he holds her. This is much better, not to worry about whether they'll be here tomorrow or what anyone will think and just allow things to happen as they would. In time.] What can I do? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-23 10:12 pm UTC (link)
	I dunno. I just know I wanna go home and relax. I'm pretty sure it was the longest day I've ever had in the prison. [That was putting it lightly, for sure!] Even though I feel pretty good about everything right now, I'm glad all the sessions are over. Hope they weren't too bad for you. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)