InsaneJournal

Tweak says, "Damn fine coffee!"

Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

Entry tags:

:mingle, bak chang, bro strider, buffy summers, charlotte charles, daniel osbourne, dirk strider, elena gilbert, helen magnus, hikaru hitachiin, ianto jones, jack harkness, jake english, james watson, jean-luc picard, jessica hamby, lacus clyne, lelouch vi britannia, lyle dylandy, martha jones, miranda lotto, rebekah mikealson, rogue, sam winchester, sookie stackhouse, sougo okita, terry mcginnis, yuuki kuran, zero kiryuu

[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

(Read comments) - (Post a new comment)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 10:02 pm UTC (link)
	[A thoughtful hum as she considers this. He is needy, but she can't deny that she likes that. Feeling as though she makes a difference to someone gives her a purpose.] What would you do if you acted on it? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:08 pm UTC (link)
	I don't know. I don't want to be needy. That's the problem. [He puts a hand to his chin.] You know who's needy? Babies. Babies are needy. And need their own ass wiped. I don't want to need someone to wipe my ass all the time. I am capable of wiping my own ass. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 10:15 pm UTC (link)
	[She's used to his strange metaphors by now, so takes it in stride.] Needing someone doesn't make you incapable of anything and everything. We all need someone, sometimes. If you don't want to be needy, then what do you want? [He always says that he wants to be different, but never how.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:43 pm UTC (link)
	[Sometimes. He feels he has this need more than sometimes. It's never "a little" or "sometimes," he's pretty sure of that.] Mm, I really don't know... I'm just tired of being needy and loathing my very existence. Or be a kid again when it was only me, my sister and Kondo, and stay in that moment of time forever. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 10:46 pm UTC (link)
	[Poor Sougo. He so often says things that pain her, things she wishes he didn't have to feel.] You only ever seem to want things I can't give you. I wish there was something you wanted that I could do. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:57 pm UTC (link)
	I only ever want the impossible. [That was something that was clear to him. Not much else is, really.] You're fine, though. You put up with my shit, and you never give up on me. Other people don't do that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 11:00 pm UTC (link)
	You forgot that I wore a kitty outfit and let you handcuff me, and I always make sure you get plenty of kisses. [It's almost enough to hurt a girl's feelings~] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 11:26 pm UTC (link)
	I haven't forgotten. [He looks at her, already feeling a tiny bit ashamed for what he is about to say (although on a normal day he would never admit it).] Sorry that I don't have the confidence to do something special for you in return. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 11:29 pm UTC (link)
	I'm not so sure what kind of confidence you need, when I've already told you that whatever you want is okay with me. Anything you'd do for me, I would be unspeakably happy about it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 11:48 pm UTC (link)
	You always say that you love me so freely. I don't give back as much as I think I should. [He takes her hand to hold.] I'm terrified you'll end up hating me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 11:56 pm UTC (link)
	I can't think of anything that would make me hate you. Even if you did something I didn't approve of, or something that upset me, I know you wouldn't hurt me on purpose. That alone would be enough to forgive you. But as you giving back, I think you should do what's in your heart, whatever that may be. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

sadistfaction
2013-09-20 12:26 am UTC (link)

[He shakes his head. It just isn't that simple to him!]

And then you're going to find someone who is way cooler and more confident than I am, and you're going to forget all about me, and you're going to spend all your time with them and have no time for me and you won't even notice when I'm around. And he'll probably turn out to be a royal prince or something like that, and then you'll be a princess and have an extravagant lifestyle and do better things than sitting around watching someone feel sorry for themselves while watching stupid movies and TV shows.

(Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

fields_of_hope
2013-09-20 08:07 pm UTC (link)

[Tugging on his hand, Lacus pulls them to a stop so that she can look at Sougo directly. If she didn't know him so well, she might assume by his words that he finds he very fickle and superficial, not at all the sort of person she knows herself to be. But she does know him.]

One day, I hope you will believe me when I tell you how much you mean to me, and that you're in no danger of being replaced by anyone.

[She stretches up to hug him.] For now, all I can do is tell you that I love you. As many times as you need to hear it.

(Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 08:43 pm UTC (link)
	[He hugs her too.] It's so much easier to deal with people hating me than it is to deal with people loving me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 08:44 pm UTC (link)
	[Her arms still around him, she pulls back enough to shoot him a smile.] I could smack you if that's what you want. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 08:50 pm UTC (link)
	[What, really?!] I dare you to smack me. [Maybe if he dares her, she will do it! Mostly just to see if she would really do it.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 08:51 pm UTC (link)
	Only if you let me take care of you afterwords, without any arguments or telling me you don't deserve it. [She drives a hard bargain!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 08:55 pm UTC (link)
	[Acts as if he has to think about it, though he doesn't have to. Like he could say no to such a request!] Hmm... I accept! Smack me! Love me! Give me everything you've got! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 09:11 pm UTC (link)
	[Lacus takes a step back and gives him one more smile before she lifts a hand and gives him a good, open-handed smack across the cheek. Not full strength, not enough to really hurt, but it should sting.] [No sooner does her hand settle than she stretches up to kiss his other cheek. She couldn't hurt him without soothing it after.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 09:38 pm UTC (link)
	[The fact that she actually did it made her so much cooler in his eyes.] Ah-- I swear, you're going to make me cry one day. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-20 09:41 pm UTC (link)
	I'd much rather make you smile. [She takes his hand and swings it to and fro.] Shall we continue on home? Or would you like another kiss first? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-20 10:01 pm UTC (link)
	[He points to his cheek and makes a kissy face. He's sure Lacus can figure that out!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-22 01:38 pm UTC (link)
	[With a little giggle, she stretches up to kiss the exact spot where his finger pointed.] Anywhere else? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-22 07:16 pm UTC (link)
	More. [Now he points to his other cheek, still with the kissy face.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-22 08:24 pm UTC (link)
	Mm, you're so direct today. [She drapes her arms around his neck and kisses that spot as well. Anticipating further requests and because she wants too, she also kisses his forehead and his nose, then takes advantage of those pursed lips.] Did I get everywhere? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)