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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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foreverjack
2013-09-17 07:15 am UTC (link)

[Jack's rummaging through the bowl with a look of long-suffering disgust on his face.]

Oh for goodness sake, it's like they just made up this whole thing just to piss me off! I mean, come on – 'How many people have you slept with?' 'How many relationships have you been in?' How long have you got???

[He sighs, and turns to the person nearest him, spreading his hands.]

All right then, let's do this. Ask me something!

[Despite his initial lack of enthusiasm, he is partaking amply of the coffee and pastries, so he will, without doubt, be confiding his innermost secrets soon!]

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	notrosesshadow 2013-09-17 12:09 pm UTC (link)
	They put you in here too? I thought things were going well between... [She looks around and sees Ianto across the room. Martha lowers her voice and looks concerned.] Is everything OK between you two? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	foreverjack 2013-09-17 02:59 pm UTC (link)
	They are! Everything's fine - great, in fact! [Well, you know, except for him not having told Ianto he got killed by Spike two days ago. And the other thing he hasn't told him, of course.] I get the impression this is more about - you know - all your relationships, not just the current one? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notrosesshadow 2013-09-17 03:03 pm UTC (link)
	[She looks a little relieved at that. Then she laughs sharply.] All our relationships huh? I don't know that I'm much for forced therapy. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	foreverjack 2013-09-17 05:44 pm UTC (link)
	Hey, at least you can probably remember all your relationships! And god, totally with you there, babe. [Taking a long swig of his coffee. It's good coffee.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notrosesshadow
2013-09-17 10:52 pm UTC (link)

[Martha’s already on her second cup of tea. And it’s starting to work it’s magic.]

All two of them? Three if you count the Doctor. And all three were spectacular failures.

[She thinks about it for a moment.]

Not the first one so much. There wasn’t the complication of aliens at all. Just the complication of two med students who were with each other mainly for all that stuff you start learning about in University. It ended when I got a fellowship and he didn’t.

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foreverjack
2013-09-18 10:33 am UTC (link)

[He grins, and leers a bit.] Sounds like my days at the Time Academy. First time away from home, small town boy in a big city, no idea of a lot of the things people were getting up to – and there was John Hart!

[Then he looks at her with interest, head on one side.] Do you count the Doctor? I don’t tend to, really, since it was clearly never reciprocated, but in a way it’s still probably my longest relationship yet.

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notrosesshadow
2013-09-18 11:20 pm UTC (link)

[She wouldn't have minded hearing more about John Hart. It would have kept her from spilling the answers to his question.]

I think I have to for the purpose of this therapy. He kissed me the first time I met him. Something to do with DNA transference so the Judoon wouldn't know he was an alien. He even warned me that it meant nothing.

And I fell for him. Hard. But I'm not Rose.

[It still hurt. She'd mostly gotten over it, but deep down, it still hurt. It would always hurt just a bit.]

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	foreverjack 2013-09-20 04:53 am UTC (link)
	Ouch. He's an unthinking, callous bastard sometimes, isn't he? [Hello truth serum, making your effects known! He sighs.] None of us are ever going to match up to Rose, you know. She was there first. She kind of... imprinted on him. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notrosesshadow
2013-09-23 12:21 pm UTC (link)

Sometimes? He's so brilliant and he knows it! But for all his time among humans, for all he thinks he understands them, he can be a bloody idiot.

[Martha nods when he mentions Rose.]

It took some time. I don't think I'll ever be completely over him, but it doesn't bother me the way it used to. There's room for other people again. Well, there was. Now I have to get over Tom.

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	foreverjack 2013-09-24 11:12 am UTC (link)
	He doesn’t understand a fucking thing. [Which is probably more blunt than he would usually be, but what the hell!] You seem to be getting on all right with young Sam, though? [With a wink. He saw you leaving his Christmas party with Sam, Martha, and then talking to him again here today!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notrosesshadow
2013-09-24 11:23 am UTC (link)

Sam?

We had a long talk comparing apocalypses.

[Oh that was out loud.]

It's... it's nice to talk to another human... who is likely to live around the same number of years I do. The perspective is a bit different from yours.

[Stop talking Martha.]

I mean... you're Jack. And you'll always be my Jack, and the best person around. But you've lived so much longer and have such a different view on things than I can ever hope to have.

[She'll just take a sip of tea to stop the truth vomit.]

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	foreverjack 2013-09-24 05:25 pm UTC (link)
	[He grins, and takes her hand (he would take both her hands if they weren't each holding a drink in one hand).] Martha. You're allowed to have other people to confide in than me. I'm glad you're making a connection with someone else here! [A wink.] And you're absolutely right. I do have a very different perspective than - well - just about everybody! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	foreverjack 2013-09-21 08:54 am UTC (link)
	Little bit. [A wink, and another grin. He may be committed to monogamy now, but apparently that's never going to stop him hitting on other people anyway.] Isn't flirting more fun than what we're officially here for? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-09-24 03:15 pm UTC (link)
	[ Cutie. ] I can't really disagree with that... though I have to confess, I have a boyfriend back home. Sorry. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)