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Turgon the Wise | Sarafinwë Turukáno (turukano) wrote in compass_network,
@ 2013-05-16 12:30:00

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I am finding the differences between the treatment of men and women far more disturbing than I ever thought they would be. When I was a woman, I think that I was too used to the way I was treated to see clearly how internalized such things could be, and how deeply such things persist in our society.

So following from that thought, I should like to ask some questions. I think perhaps just one at a time, since there is much to think about and discuss about each.

So, to begin.

Would you consider a woman who works, of her own free will and with no pressure or compulsion, in a strip club to be equally respectable to, say, a teacher or a waitress? Please explain your answer either way.

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	turukano 2013-05-16 05:15 pm UTC (link)
	Indeed so, and a power that is oft cruelly expressed through violence. My world is far from perfect in this regard, but I think it was not until I looked at the world as a man that I have realized how entrenched such power structures are. The way I am treated, the respect I am given, simply for a difference in anatomy is astounding. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fuckitybye 2013-05-16 06:23 pm UTC (link)
	Definitely, and even then the woman is often blamed, despite being the innocent victim. It seems like it's one thing that all of the worlds here have in common, which is really fucking depressing. I know. It's a fucking joke. I'm sorry that it is that way. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

turukano
2013-05-16 06:30 pm UTC (link)

As am I. As the mother of a daughter, it pains me to see such things internalized in such a way. I do not want her chances limited at all by her gender; they should not be!

And of course, such things as domestic abuse and sexual assault are the most obvious manifestations of this attitude, but the others are creeping and insidious. Such as teaching a woman to believe she is less, or that her body is not hers to do with as she pleases! Or that enjoying sex somehow makes her a 'bad' woman.

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fuckitybye
2013-05-16 10:53 pm UTC (link)

I know what you mean. I've got two daughters of my own. Neither of them here, don't know if that's a blessing or not. Doesn't always feel like it.

I always tried to instill a sense of self-confidence in them. To know that their voices mattered as much as anyone elses. You're right, I think often the emotional abuse is the word. Slowly beating someone down day after day just because of their gender.

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	turukano 2013-05-16 11:56 pm UTC (link)
	And sometimes, it is so subtle that it is not even noticed, even by the women themselves. That is what makes it so dangerous. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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