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Tweak says, "Turn the bass down!"

Lothíriel, Queen of Rohan | Lord of the Rings (queenofrohan) wrote in compass_network,
@ 2013-04-15 02:03:00

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!open, maryanne walker (oe)

Love is a cruel myth created to make women obey.

Men do not love us. They may be fond of us, but they think only of themselves, and when they tire of us...then all the words they have told us mean nothing. And if we are foolish enough to believe them, and love them in return...

Then we are heartbroken.

And we must simply live with this. It is as my father says. It is my burden to bear, and I must do my duty.

So it is. So it always will be.

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	blacktwin 2013-04-15 10:22 am UTC (link)
	I'm with Eames on this. The last woman I had a relationship with dated someone else behind my back and the one before that tried to kill me. You shouldn't be all sterotypes about this. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 06:15 pm UTC (link)
	There are bad women, but men have more freedom. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 06:24 pm UTC (link)
	Why? What keeps you from being free? What you do is your choice. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 06:28 pm UTC (link)
	It is not. I belonged to my father, now I belong to my husband. What rights do you think I have? I have the right to be quiet and obey. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 06:35 pm UTC (link)
	But yet you speak up. Right here, right now. And you have all the rights you want to have. If you wanted to get away from your husband and he wouldn't let you, I can guarantee you that you will have at least twenty people here who will back you up. You don't belong to anyone if you don't want to belong to anybody. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 06:43 pm UTC (link)
	My husband has always been good to me. My father says that men often stray, and it is only something we must learn to put up with. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 06:47 pm UTC (link)
	No, you put up with what you want to put up with. It's your life, you make the choices in it. If you want change, do something about it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 06:47 pm UTC (link)
	I have never made a choice for myself. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 07:00 pm UTC (link)
	Then this is a good place to start making them. What is it you want from your life? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 07:01 pm UTC (link)
	I have never thought of it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 07:02 pm UTC (link)
	Then again, do it now. It's your life after all, not anyone else's. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 07:14 pm UTC (link)
	I am a wife, and soon to be a mother. My life is indeed someone else's, at least in part. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 07:18 pm UTC (link)
	Have you ever thought that maybe his life should be as much yours as your life his? You should work as a team, not as a slave and his master. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 07:20 pm UTC (link)
	Please do not speak badly of him. He has never treated me like that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 07:23 pm UTC (link)
	Then why do you think of yourself as a slave? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 07:26 pm UTC (link)
	I believe what my father raised me to believe. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 07:37 pm UTC (link)
	Have you ever talked to your husband about it? Maybe he doesn't even want you to shut up. I wouldn't want a wife who never speaks of her own wishes. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 07:37 pm UTC (link)
	He told me he does not. That he wants me to be my own person. He's always told me that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 07:41 pm UTC (link)
	And you disobey him? What would your father say? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 07:50 pm UTC (link)
	I don't know. It seems I can do nothing right. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 07:56 pm UTC (link)
	But isn't it a pretty easy? Your father wants you to do what your husband wants you to do and your husband wants you to make your own decisions. So go and please your father by making your own decisions. I don't see a problem there. And it is what you should do in the first place anyway. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenofrohan 2013-04-15 08:08 pm UTC (link)
	My father's demands are not so easy. I am to obey my husband, yes, but I am also to act appropriately in doing so, and to remember my place. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	blacktwin 2013-04-15 08:12 pm UTC (link)
	But in your marriage, shouldn't it be up to you and your husband to define what's appropriate? (Reply to this) (Parent)

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