InsaneJournal

I just wanted to say how much I really appreciate you three. You're the best friends a guy could have. Though anybody from back home wouldn't be even remotely surprised that I've surrounded myself with women, right Maryanne?

There's something that I'm having a harder time dealing with than any of the stuff that's gone down the last couple of days. And that is my mother. While there's a part of me that still sees her as my mother, there's a bigger part of me that just keeps thinking how could she possibly be? The time she's from is 40 years in my past. I've told her some stuff about me and she just doesn't understand. I love my mother and we were really close for most of my life, but this woman....she's not the woman that died in the car accident 26 years ago. She knows almost nothing about me. I look at her and I think "There's no way she's my mom. She's too young."

I've been without my mother for more than half my life and I'm finding that it's really hard to going back to having her around. I feel like she's a complete stranger calling herself my mom.

Maryanne, Bridget, I'm mainly asking you as resident mother and mother to be. Can you give me any advice? Anything that could maybe help me get a real relationship with her? I want her in my life. I want her around. I'm just having a really hard time getting my brain to cooperate with the notion that she actually is my mother. I guess what it comes down to is that she and I need to rebond but just sitting together and talking isn't doing it.

Can you help?