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Tweak says, "Get jiggy wit it... Or Else!"

Anthony Edward Barton-Stark (aedwardstark) wrote in compass_network,
@ 2013-02-08 08:37:00

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!closed, maryanne walker (oe), ~tony stark

I just wanted to say how much I really appreciate you three. You're the best friends a guy could have. Though anybody from back home wouldn't be even remotely surprised that I've surrounded myself with women, right Maryanne?

There's something that I'm having a harder time dealing with than any of the stuff that's gone down the last couple of days. And that is my mother. While there's a part of me that still sees her as my mother, there's a bigger part of me that just keeps thinking how could she possibly be? The time she's from is 40 years in my past. I've told her some stuff about me and she just doesn't understand. I love my mother and we were really close for most of my life, but this woman....she's not the woman that died in the car accident 26 years ago. She knows almost nothing about me. I look at her and I think "There's no way she's my mom. She's too young."

I've been without my mother for more than half my life and I'm finding that it's really hard to going back to having her around. I feel like she's a complete stranger calling herself my mom.

Maryanne, Bridget, I'm mainly asking you as resident mother and mother to be. Can you give me any advice? Anything that could maybe help me get a real relationship with her? I want her in my life. I want her around. I'm just having a really hard time getting my brain to cooperate with the notion that she actually is my mother. I guess what it comes down to is that she and I need to rebond but just sitting together and talking isn't doing it.

Can you help?

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living_history
2013-02-08 05:10 pm UTC (link)

As a guess I'd say she's probably as completely at a loss about you as you are about her. I know if my sons suddenly showed up as grown men wanting to have some kind of mother/son relationship with me I'd be hopeless because I don't have the experience.

Maybe the two of you should clear the air about what to expect from each other? Or treat each other as some other kind of relative besides parent and child?

I hope that helps! I'm pulling for you both!

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	aedwardstark 2013-02-09 01:13 am UTC (link)
	It helps a lot, thank you. (Reply to this) (Parent)

maryanne_walker
2013-02-08 08:02 pm UTC (link)

Well... My son is only three months old so I don't know how much help I can be...

But I will say no, I'm not surprised that you're surrounded by women, shug. Maybe treat her like one of us? Er without the flirting of course, because that would be just weird even to me. Get to know her as she is? I mean most normal parents are friends with their kids at this stage in their lives, aren't they? ~~If they're still around o~~

If your Dad had been anyone but Howard Stark you'd probably be going to strip joints with him.

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	aedwardstark 2013-02-09 01:13 am UTC (link)
	You're right. Thank you. :-) (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	maryanne_walker 2013-02-09 02:37 am UTC (link)
	You're very welcome. I hope it helps. (Reply to this) (Parent)