Ask around. Not everyone assumes I'm always being condescending. Just the ones who haven't bothered to give me a chance to deal with everything this city has thrown at me, My wife, my daughter, vanished in an instant, my sister died here. For this war. Amazing how much sympathy I got from those who call me condescending.
Then try. Help him. Because if it doesn't happen soon I'll ensure it does. Call it condescending if you want but if it gets him started on the road to recovery then I'm good with it