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Tonks NOT Nymphadora (morphingtonks) wrote in wariscomingcom,
@ 2012-12-01 02:46:00

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emma swan, james rogers, luke skywalker, nymphadora tonks, scorpius malfoy

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Finding out my kid from the future is here and knowing I'm never really gonna know him...is that what this place does to you? What do I do with that? I'm 19, I don't know anything about being a Mum. And, I mean, maybe he doesn't even need me to be a Mum to him. He's 18 himself. Do I try to be something I'm not? Do I just try to be a friend? ~~And I'll just be ignoring the fact that I now have a time limit on life if I get sent home because I canmt even pretend to be able to process that at all right now.~~

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lostfairytale
2012-11-30 07:11 pm UTC (link)

Speaking honestly, I'd just do what feels natural. You're not the only one here who's had that problem. Yes, he's an adult, but if you didn't get to raise him, he's probably grateful to have you around anyway. Take the time to get to know him. Maybe you'll never find that maternal spark you might in the future, but you both at least deserve the chance to get to know each other.

If that's what you want to do. If it isn't, I'd suggest letting him down easily. Because being presented with a parent after growing up without one only to find out they don't want you would seriously suck.

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	morphingtonks 2012-11-30 07:33 pm UTC (link)
	I had a feeling, what with peple coming through different points in time and all, somebody elese might've been in this spot. He's a good kid, far as I can tell so far. I want to know him, but he's sort of bombed with a lot of things...I'm trying to wrap my head around it all. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

lostfairytale
2012-12-01 08:23 pm UTC (link)

If it helps, I've kind of been on both ends. My mom knew she had a baby, at least, but I'd just been born when I was taken away, and now we're both about the same age. And I gave my kid up when he was a baby and now I'm here raising him. It's rough from either end but it isn't impossible. You may never want to be a mother to him, and he might just be okay with that, so long as he gets to know you. For the way things worked out, my mom is my best friend now. I wouldn't trade it for anything, even if it might have been nice for her to be able to raise me. He'll adjust and so will you, but you've got to handle things at your own pace.

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	theskywalker 2012-11-30 09:14 pm UTC (link)
	If I might make a suggestion, give yourself both some time. Wrap your head around here, settle in, and figure out what you want, then, when you have a foundation, approach him, with either wanting to know him, or with telling him that you don't. Trying to handle this and the chaos of this life at the same time is perhaps not the wisest of choices. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	morphingtonks 2012-11-30 09:25 pm UTC (link)
	Idealistic as that might be, mate, it's out there now. I can't ignore it. Can't forget it. I like what I know of him so far. It's not really about do I or don't I want to know him. I do. I just don't know how I'm supposed to be around him. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	theskywalker 2012-11-30 10:20 pm UTC (link)
	Oh, well... hm. In that case, I'd be you. Don't try to be anything or anyone you aren't. To be fair, and honest, you are not his mother, not yet. You could become that woman, some day, but right now, you aren't. It would be unfair to both of you to try to be that person. A friend is a good idea, someone who he can count on, yes. But not his mother. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	morphingtonks 2012-11-30 10:38 pm UTC (link)
	Guess I just need to take a few days and try to wrap my head around all this. (Reply to this) (Parent)

avenging_son
2012-11-30 10:41 pm UTC (link)

That's like what happened to me and my Mom. She died when I was little so I never really got a chance to know her. Then I come here and she's here. I mean, I'm only 15 but I think no matter what age I was, just getting to know her was the best thing ever.

But like people have been saying, just do what you're comfortable with. Both of you. You get a chance to know each other if you wanna take it.

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morphingtonks
2012-11-30 11:15 pm UTC (link)

Yeah? That's me and Teddy too, I think he was still a baby when me and his dad died. Y'know it's actually kinda a good idea to get the advice from "the other side" so to say. So how'd your Mum handle it? Did she go all mothery on you?

Just a weird situation, I guess. Not somethin' I was expectin', ya know? But yeah, I think you lot are right. I'm not gonna let the weird overshadow the fact that we get that chance here.

...You're really bright for bein' 15, mate. Shame more people aren't that way at your age.

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avenging_son
2012-11-30 11:45 pm UTC (link)

I think she handled it pretty well. I mean, it was an obvious shock. But she seemed more interested in wanting to know me when the shock wore off. And it doesn't feel like she's gone all mothery on me. I mean, not in the sense of "You need to clean your room, do the dishes" and stuff. She just makes sure I'm adjusting okay and I'm never in over my head. Least it seems to me.

It's definitely weird. I never thought I'd see her in my life again outside of pictures. You get use to the weird though.

I had to grow up kinda fast in my time. Our version of Earth was being ravaged by a killer robot and we were in hiding for like, twelve, thirteen years maybe? and doing nothing but training.

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	morphingtonks 2012-12-01 12:37 am UTC (link)
	Well, that's cool, that you guys adjusted like that. Maybe it won't be weird for too long... A killer robot? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	avenging_son 2012-12-01 12:40 am UTC (link)
	I found that weird is relative in this place. Yeah. It thought that the best way for world peace was to kill all the humans. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	morphingtonks 2012-12-01 12:46 am UTC (link)
	That seems to be the general vibe I'm getting from people. Guess I'll see soon enough, yeah? That is...wow. No. I don't even...d'ya know if it's stopped? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	avenging_son 2012-12-01 01:05 am UTC (link)
	Yeah. Before I arrived here my friends and I were able to stop it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	morphingtonks 2012-12-01 02:12 am UTC (link)
	Well, that's good, at least! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	avenging_son 2012-12-01 02:13 am UTC (link)
	Yeah. There's still a lot of work to do back home though. Rebuild the world and stuff. But we'll get it done. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	morphingtonks 2012-12-01 02:48 am UTC (link)
	Better than nothing though. I mean, at least there's a world to rebuild? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	avenging_son 2012-12-01 02:52 am UTC (link)
	Exactly. I refuse to give up hope that my friends and I can bring the world back to how it's suppose to be. (Reply to this) (Parent)

betterthanmost
2012-11-30 11:50 pm UTC (link)

My father was here for a time. Same age as me too. It was.. awkward, to say the least. Seeing each other that way and talking. But only a little strange at first, just mostly from the surprise of it all. And not for too long. We were a bit like friends in a way, like fellow housemates even though I still remembered him as older back home.

But I can say that it does get easier. Spending time around someone helps to make it more familiar, and being there for each other, just to be there for them as a family. That definitely helps in the long run.

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	morphingtonks 2012-12-01 12:38 am UTC (link)
	This is way more common around here than I thought. That in itself kinda makes me feel a bit better, honestly. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	betterthanmost 2012-12-01 08:38 am UTC (link)
	That's good, glad to help. A lot of us are in the same boat here. This place throws a lot of stuff at people, but they usually get through it together. ~~Even though being in a war is shock enough for me and others from my year~~ I'm Scorpius. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	morphingtonks 2012-12-01 03:59 pm UTC (link)
	That's good, at leaat people pull together. Could go the complete opposite, with the high stress situations and all. Wotcher, Scorpius! Name's Tonks. (Reply to this) (Parent)