Phoebe Halliwell ☼ Charmed for Life (thirdcharmed) wrote in wariscomingcom, @ 2012-04-25 23:27:00 |
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Dear Phoebe,
I have a dilemma. I am in love with one woman, let's call her Catherine. However, she doesn't know nor does she seem to reciprocate the feelings. I am sleeping with and growing attached to another woman, let's call her Arisone. As if that was not enough, I have a crush on a third woman, let's call her Helen. However, Helen is happily married, and the crush would not proceed further than this.
Relationships are not my strong point, and it has been several years since I even had feelings like these. I do not how to proceed, so what should I do?
Sincerely,
Hopelessly Lost
Dear H.L.,
Sweetie, it sounds like any hopes you had for a monogamous relationship have gotten a little out of hand. What you may want to do is sit down and decide which of the three, for sure, you truly love (and my vote is for one of the two not married). Though you may have strong feelings for all three, there's going to be one that you feel the strongest about - no matter what you may thing. That's the one that you're going to want to confront directly.
Don't forget to take into consideration that if Catherine doesn't return your feelings, maybe she's not the one you should end up with. You should also take a close look at these feelings - sometimes close friendship or affection can be mistaken for love.
Best of luck in unraveling this tangle.
Signed,
Phoebe