Sorry if I'm not being clear-- what I meant was, sometimes telling us scans_dailyians to take a chill pill a totally valid thing to do, but using the situation that involved a possible rape and had a lot strong feelings attached to it to do that was probably not a good idea.
And okay now that I look back I don't know how anyone would get that from my original comment, so I'm just going to go be incoherent somewhere else now . . .