"Okay, I have to say that I think you have to make a lot of assumptions about Grayson's life and personal history to make such a claim, and IMO the accusation borders on (if not crosses the line to) personally attacking her."
She's on record as being both a victim of sexual assault and a bisexual.
"Huntress's thing used to be that it's okay to kill people or be more brutal when the original crime was heinous."
Yes. Used to be. Years later she softened a little bit. But at the time, whenever she'd go off on that tangent, Batman was rarely shown to reply in any meaningful way. It's one of the reasons it took a long time for me to like the character.