I think there are some things that *Huntress* has in common with Batman, but as Bruce and Helena they are pretty different, if that makes sense. And yeah, Babs is far more like Bruce in personality. In fact, with him calling Babs right afterwards, I would think Babs would be more likely to be someone's avatar. (And yes, I believe it was Babs who said something like "honey, I know she may seem familiar to you, but...", but he also had a dream where Batman found out about him and Helena and got pissed off.)
this and that Nightwing annual seem to be where the manwhore stuff comes from and he just isn't.
Yes. Uhg, the idea that he would sleep with Babs when she's so vulnerable and while he's engaged to Kory just doesn't fly.
Dick for some reason sticks with her in spite of that. Like she's given way too much power over him for who she actually is and all that.
Part of that I can get because it was such a fucked-up abusive relationship, and the victim in such situation often feels misplaced guilt or that they can "fix" the other person etc (and given their vigilantism and their differing styles/methods at that, Dick is very focused on reforming her). Additionally, whether it was good or bad editorially speaking, every bat-book at that time was leading up to War Games. And War Games was an extreme exercise in Murphy's Law, where everything that could possibly go wrong went wrong, and everyone was having problems and at each other's throats.
I get the feeling that all of that was somehow meant to be cathartic, and after repeatedly hitting rock-bottom, he was supposed to be happy and flying high again. Unfortunately, we had to wait all the way until Tomasi's run, and lovely though that was, it was sad.