Also this view is disturbingly convenient if you're a date rapist [...]
Or if you're a writer who's being an apologist for your own Mary Sue rapist character.
I'll say it again; Grayson talking about Nightwing and Taratula reminds me SO much of Ayn Rand talking about Howard Roark and Dominique Francon in The Fountainhead, and anybody whose mental processes are in ANY way similar to Ayn Rand's should seek professional help IMMEDIATELY.