That was the way I was leaning. And I can sort of buy it...though it doesn't really work. If she's going from Catalina's pov then it shouldn't be noncon at all.
Also this view is disturbingly convenient if you're a date rapist: hey, I just thought the "no" wasn't serious and I was making the other person feel good. If I don't think of myself as a rapist then it's not rape. Surely the victim's experience is only secondary!