I'll thank you not to twist my words and to stop interpreting my intentions.
You ignored the other sentence in my original post, which quite clearly addressed your point about victim-blaming. I honestly couldn't imagine any other explanation for you omitting that sentence, other than knowing intent.
But those circumstances exist within the story.
Those circumstances were a series of fanfic-level lamely improbable contrivances that read like a dumb teenager ripping off Frank Miller's "Born Again" arc in Daredevil, which is why I reject them, because they were so obviously intended to drive the character to the point of OH NOES I AM SO BROKEN WOE that the writer clearly didn't consider the logical consequences of her own plot developments, in terms of how the characters SHOULD have behaved. It's the kind of shameless emo for its own sake that makes Russell T. Davies' Doctor Who and the "Brand New Day" era of Spider-Man look like Shakespeare by comparison, so yes, I REJECT those circumstances. I actually used to LIKE Devin Grayson, but once she started tearing down Dick's life so pointlessly and nonsensically, even before the rape, I seriously started wondering if CHUCK AUSTEN was ghost-writing her stuff, because it's EXACTLY THE SAME.
Black Canary and Nightwing are two different characters and they wouldn't react or fail to react the same way.
Let me revise that, then; if any female costumed crimefighter, who had Dick Grayson's experiences and skills and will, had reacted in the same way, it would have been branded misogyny, and rightly so.