Well, it's hard to feel hurt by something you can get away from. Guys are simply assumed to have sexual choice, period, even when they don't - it's completely ingrained, to the point where our culture, on the whole, can't even conceive of a situation where the power is *genuinely* completely with the woman (hence the general attitude toward female-on-male rape, both statutory and otherwise). It's like... okay, two pets are hanging out, a dog and a parrot, and the dog keeps turning the thermostat down in the parrot's room because he doesn't like the noise the heater makes. So the parrot goes "well, what if I turned the heat down in your room," but the dog goes, "um, what if you did?" Because the dog has a fur coat, he doesn't give a shit. See, the real question is actually, "what if I made you as cold as you made me," but the parrot simply doesn't *have* that power. And she can't describe being cold to the dog, who has no frame of reference for it. So they can only talk about the thermostat, which doesn't carry the same meaning for them, so the parrot's kind of screwed.