I see it as a matter of degrees. As other posters have said better than me, the current Marvel regime is aping the surface-level trappings of pre-BND Spidey, but without diagnosing the underlying reasons for those reasons, and without portraying those trappings with any level of moderation.
And yes, Peter treated Deborah like shit, but I don't recall it being portrayed as FUNNY that he fucked with her head, which is how the writers chose to portray the consequences of the Chameleon and Michelle. My grudge doesn't change these facts. :)