Yes, that's exactly how I feel, and reading this helps a lot. I've actually made a point of watching and rewatching this scene with a view to getting to know it and see it without its being muddied by all the negativity I'd read before I first saw it. Honestly, I'm still working at that, and the scene will never be one of my favorites, yet reading takes on it like yours, and Kari's and others' I've met here has gone a long, long way towards helping me feel love and tenderness rather than sadness when seeing it. ♥